It IS allowed for trans women to be in Women's restrooms and you will have to submit to that reality.
Hey, as long as they have the appropriate plumbing and they're not bothering anyone, I personally don't much care. I'm not so interested in total strangers - or other people in general - that I want to start DNA testing folks in the bathroom.
But I'm also not interested in being told that I have to pretend a person built like a linebacker with a five o'clock shadow and a skirt is a "woman".
Fine, but a guy who wants to appear as a woman and who is a mid-process or post op transsexual isn't going to have a 5 o'clock shadow. As for built like a linebacker but without a five o'clock shadow, well, that's about how I'd describe
female bodybuilders. Look at those women. Even when they are not flexing, they are going to "look like a linebacker."
You DO realize that sex change surgery is extremely expensive, and not covered by most insurance (unless that changed in the last few days). Which means that most trans people are basically just extreme cross-dressers.
Yes, I do realize that; however, I know too that is neither the sole nor driving factor in determining the sufficiency of the argument in favor of bathroom laws. You will recall that you and I are conversing because you feel bathroom laws are necessary (at least in part) as a way of reducing the risk that M-->F transsexuals in the ladies room may be sexual predators rather than trans individuals who are there merely to relieve themselves.
One of the other factors, and a driving rather than circumstantial one as you've above presented, is that sexual predators have committing their lascivious act as an objective, be it opportunistic or premeditated in origin. I would think you'd agree that's so. We know that not one genuine trans person has ever been found to have committed a sex crime in a restroom; thus there is no basis for thinking or legislating in order to protect anyone from such persons.
That leaves us with pretenders to transsexual status. It stands to reason that individuals, we'll say men for now, who pretend to be transsexuals and want to prey on females in the ladies room/locker rooms would (1) want to successfully and without arousing suspicion gain access to those places so they can "do their thing," and (2) need to feign femininity to do so. Thus sashaying in looking like the man below isn't going to do it. He may get into the space, but who there isn't immediately going to recoil and/or drive him out?
In other words, the predator will at least need to be convincing because to do otherwise will engender a variety of challenges. After all, even the dumbest and most glib-about-incarceration sexual predators wants to at least be able to "do the deed" before being caught.
If one is to be believe the principle advanced by the gun rights advocates -- the principle that says laws don't stop or deter committed people from performing their unlawful act(s) -- bathroom law or no bathroom law, sexual predators will nonetheless attempt to prey on their desired victims. All the law does is force them to improve the authenticity of their charade, even if only enough to convincingly look like a homely and not terribly stylish female.
So applying the "ineffective deterrent" principle, it becomes irrational to advocate for bathroom laws that keep trans people from using the facilities of their choice. Quite simply, there's nothing to be gained by passing laws that one's principles say don't achieve their intended outcome, that is unless one's purpose for passing them has an unacknowledged aim or is merely to placate the "peanut gallery."
Therein, then, is seen multiple (yet not all) failings of the "trans people are extreme crossdressers" basis of support for enacting bathroom laws that make it illegal for trans people to use the bathroom that fits their apparent sex.
Supplemental imagery to highlight some of the concepts stated above.
One of these individuals is a woman. The other is not.
And this too is a man dressed as a woman.
This person truly is a woman, but with a shave and very little makeup, many men could look at least as much like a woman as she.
Now these guys are merely wearing women's clothing. They aren't fooling anyone, but I don't think they are trying to fool anyone either.
This last guy is an Eastern European math wiz who obtained some degree of fame (infamy?) because he refused to wear pants.
He's not trans or a cross dresser other than that he just prefers skirts.