Love......

[saveliberty]

There are many ways to express love, my guess is you are attracted to people that express it in a way you understand and need.

So if you have a way of expressing love that is unorthodox, might be harder to be loved or love.... agree?

Probably, but my point was actually you may be expressing love for someone, but they do not understand it that way.

 

[Bonzi]

There are many ways to express love, my guess is you are attracted to people that express it in a way you understand and need.

So if you have a way of expressing love that is unorthodox, might be harder to be loved or love.... agree?

Probably, but my point was actually you may be expressing love for someone, but they do not understand it that way.

oh yeah, know all about that in my marriage.
If I don’t do something that my husband thinks is an expression of love, he says it means I don’t love him (but in his mind, that’s what people do when they love each other) but I just have a different way of expressing my love. It’s true vice versa. I feel expressing love means giving people room and trust, where, he feels love means wanting to be with that person all the time, always paying 100% attention etc.

 

[saveliberty]

Sounds like a good talk to have with him. Please consider having a no attacking rule and be kind with the words you both choose.

 

[Alex.]

 

[Bonzi]

Sounds like a good talk to have with him. Please consider having a no attacking rule and be kind with the words you both choose.

it's hard we do try...
he's very emotive and I'm very logical so... it's challenging!

 

[Bonzi]

that is the biggest crock of shit. No wonder divorce rates are so high!

 

[saveliberty]

Sounds like a good talk to have with him. Please consider having a no attacking rule and be kind with the words you both choose.

it's hard we do try...
he's very emotive and I'm very logical so... it's challenging!

I am glad you are trying. It can take a long time, be patient.

 

[Bonzi]

Sounds like a good talk to have with him. Please consider having a no attacking rule and be kind with the words you both choose.

it's hard we do try...
he's very emotive and I'm very logical so... it's challenging!

I am glad you are trying. It can take a long time, be patient.

I used to be just like him. that was not going to work!
Someone had to change, so, I did so......
A lot of the changes I have made has made me a better person (but I'm not nearly as fun!)

 

[saveliberty]

I support your efforts with a listening ear Bonzi. Also with good to fairly crappy advice.

 

[Bonzi]

I support your efforts with a listening ear Bonzi. Also with good to fairly crappy advice.

I need all the help I can get. I should talk more to the cats in the neighborhood also....

 

[saveliberty]

Purring can be comforting.

 

[baileyn45]

I read this today - had to share....

"You know what love is? Love is when you're so tired and want to fall asleep, but you look over and see her, and then you get all excited and happy and can't sleep because you're next to her."

Funny but I have a hard time getting to sleep without without my wife. Makes for some rough business trips.

 

[Spinster]

I wonder though, what causes someone to love some and not others....
You have children, you love them, because you raise them, you are close to them and know them well plus there it the "natural" love - but you can also know people for a long time you don't love - I just wonder why you would love some and not others.

Personality?
Something intangible?
Similarities?

Chemistry, energy, like mindedness, synergy, or other nebulous terms. Genuine love pretty much sums it up nicely, I think.

 

[Freewill]

I am am sure everyone has heard about the single person syndrome. It ties into sacrifice and marriage. But in case there are those who have not here is my take.

A single man is perfect in every way. Stay up all night, drink beer, perfect. Throw shoes in the middle of the floor, perfect. Seat up, seat down, who gives a crap? Perfect.

A man gets married and finds out he is far, far, from perfect.

Goes along with, a man gets married hoping his wife never changes, she get married hoping he does. She does, he doesn't.

 

[Bonzi]

.... we must have done something wrong, when we got married my husband wanted me to change!
Of course, now I think he regrets it! I'm more "wifely" but much less fun

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Love Is Quotes at BrainyQuote

So do not miss out on life and learn to love life so you can learn to love others and yourself... ( Not directed at you just my add to this conversation )

 

[Bonzi]

not sure I agree with this one? Maybe? Thoughts?

 

[Spinster]

People erroneously think men and women are so different. The constant battle of the sexes, in my opinion, is incredibly monotonous. Men and women are not all that different. Yes, they have different genitalia, no question, but emotionally they are quite similar. They both really want the same things like love, caring, acceptance, respect, etc. I've known men and women who feel these emotions equally as intensely, they may demonstrate them differently, but for the most part they're the same. Once a person can truly get hold of the precept, it is very freeing, because finally they can begin to see the two sexes as a union in a positive rather than a negative light which stops the war and division. We are held hostage by our background, what we're been taught and heard throughout our lives. Shake all the crap away, see with new eyes, make sound decisions in our partnering, be open to growing, and give it a chance. I'm certain you'll be amazed and consequently find success.

 

[strollingbones]

looooooooooooove....the allusion of ...the reality of....the concepts are just so far apart....if you were with my hubby and i....you would think we could not stand one another....i mean we are good in public....but in private....i can walk by and he can be...all why dont you do this..and i will be like...why dont you fuck yourself.....i tend to be stubborn...he knows i have his back...that does not mean i always agree with him and some times having someones back is showing them how fucked up they are acting....or how they are wrong....and need to re think the issue....

here is our love song:

 

[Spinster]

Couldn't get your love song to play.