Actually, it is your problem because the medium is the message. If you swear at people and tell them how stupid they are because they don't agree with you, people will think you're an arrogant jackass and stop listening to what you have to say. Its not hard to figure out.
You are right that the medium is the message but you are wrong about the perception others have of you. You feign being upset when others call you names or swear at you but don't seem to have a problem with casting a vote that is offensive to others and to their families. What people think of me has little to do with what I think of them. That someone thinks I am an arrogant jackass for swearing at them while they cast their votes in such a way that it affects me and my family without giving any consideration to the fact that their votes have a negative impact on others does not bother and the reason is obvious. I think they are arrogant jackasses for casting a vote without meeting everyone involved personally. If you have not met all the candidates personally and every person they will represent personally than you are an arrogant jackass for casting your vote and for supporting a system that allows for such asinine behavior to occur. This isn't hard to accept and if it offends your fucking ass or if it offends you that others would have the courage to call you names than go right ahead and consider those of us who are willing to call arrogant jackasses names and to swear at them. Because it is quite obvious that these people have no problem casting a vote for a person they haven't met to make laws that affect people they have not met.
What this comes down to is that there is a system of government where everyone could have an equal say and where civic dialogue could occur but that system will not be instituted so long as people think that the current system doesn't offend anyone and its elimination will only occur if people begin to realize how upset some people are at being denied representation and a voice in their government the only way that is going to happen is if enough people begin to call people names and to tell people exactly what they think because when you grow up in a system based on tryanny it is only natural that you don't want to consider a different system when the system you live in allows you to take part in the tryanny.