that will never happen.
women (and some men) need to learn when to walk away and cut their emotional losses. I will never understand people who stay with an abusive partner long enough for the bonds to gel. of course there are a few exceptions...but they prove the rule(s)
That assumes that the victims are staying for some emotional reason, Dev.
Often abused women stay because they cannot financially escape, or because they are fearful of losing their kids, and because they are quite literally afraid to leave because they are terrorized that their abusive mates will kill them if they try.
And since about half the murdered domestic violence victims DO GET KILLED attempting to leave or
after having left, that's a fairly reasonable reason to be afraid, don't you think?
My point here is that most abused women are not exactly the emotional idiots you seem to think they are.
Getting out of those relationships with
power and control freaking men, isn't nearly as easy as most people think it is. That's why they are power and control freaks, after all.
Before one leaves, women need the resources to get out, to take their kids, too, and one of the hallmarks of a power and control freaking abuser is that they
ISOLATE THE WOMAN FROM RESOURCES FOR THEIR FLIGHT TO SAFETY.
And then too there's the Kafkan reality that women in abusive relationship also find that the courts grants their absuve abusers visitation rights, thus putting those absuve men back into their lives.
And even more chilling are those cases where the women loses the children to the abusive husband and that happens why?
You will NOT believe this but rest assured
it happens.
The abused woman loses custody of the children because she exposed them to violence by BEING ABUSED BY THE HUBBY!!
And guess who gets the kids?
Yeah, that's right... the abusive husband, usually with his cpontrol freaking mother is standing there ready to HELP him take care of those children too.
Sounds absurd right?
Tell us that cannot possible be true , editec, right?
Sorry, I wish I could tell you that's impossibly rare, but it isn't.
It's actually a fairly common event for a mother fleeing an abusive relationship to lose her children to the abusive husband and
his mother.
Why?
Because he has all the money, the home, and on paper at least, the the resources she does not have to raise the children in that middle class lifestyle that most courts of predisposed to think is the way your raise children. She've very likely in a shelter, but he's often in the home, you see?
So perhaps NOW you see that the reason MANY women stay in those relationships has nothing to do with
their emotional instability, but for very practical and often quite deadly practical reasons somewhat outside of their control.