The state discriminates all the time.
The state discriminates against me in terms of my health care plan because I'm not a member of Congress. Instead, I have to tackle Obamacare all by my lonesome.
The state discriminates against single folk and polygamists since they don't have the same government perks as married folk.
The state discriminates against those who make too much money by taxing them more.
The state discriminates against people with mental health problems by not allowing them to own a gun.
The state discriminates against white folk who wish to get into college or obtain employment because such institutions have a mandate via affirmative action to choose people of color instead.
The state discriminates against us all the time. The real issue is that you don't like certain segments of society that the states choose to discriminate against.
'The states" as in 1 of 50, not 'the state' and your examples of 'discrimination' are pretty weak.
Pretty weak, eh? Why?
Take marriage, for example. Why is it that people who decide to marry should get special state perks? For what? Saying "I do"?
In fact, why get a marriage license? What did I do to earn that license?
In short, what on earth is a secular state doing condoning or condemning certain sexual unions or even giving perks over people who might choose not to have sex at all?
It seems to me that you are the one who has the weakest of all positions.