Daddy didn't have contact and she blames her mother. She's a product of divorce before she's the child of gay parents. That's what she's bitter about.
Both of these are bad situations.
Long before I was born,society recognized the tragic impact that it had on a child, to
“come from a broken home”. But now, we've gone beyond the obvious folly of devaluing marriage, and making divorce easier and more socially acceptable. That was bad enough.
We've divorced the sanctity of sexual intimacy from marriage. We've removed the stigma from illegitimacy, but we have not and cannot remove the consequences, which children end up bearing as a result of their parents' folly. Instead of coming from a broken home, nearly half of all children now are born into no home at all.
And now, we're taking it another step; willfully creating distorted “homes”, inherently more “broken” than the traditional “broken home”, and putting children into them.
Ms. Barwick got a double-dose of broken. First, she came from a conventionally-broken home. And if that wasn't already bad enough, she then grew up in the new kind of even-more-broken-home. I think she knows what she's writing about, better than most of us possibly can.