I think that the ideal should be a nuclear family, one income, male breadwinner, stay at home mom, house with a mother-in-law wing to help with extended family situations.
And I want policies and a culture that makes that viable possibility for those that want it.
IMO, enough women would want that, if possible, that as a result, women would make substantially less money than men.
Now, you answer mine. Question for you. If it were the "1950s" and the "incels" were thus more likely to have a better job than the women, do you think that "incels" would appear more desirable to potential mates?