Example.
Bob: I kissed another guy yesterday.
Me: How did that make you feel, Bob?
Bob: Bad.
Me: Why is that, Bob?
Bob: Because I know my dad is going to get angry.
Me: Well, Bob, does your dad get to make your decisions for you?
Bob: Well, no.
Me: Are you responsible for your dad's actions, and decisions?
Bob: No.
Me: So, your dad's anger isn't really important, then is it, Bob? So, how did it make you feel?
Bob: I like him...
See, there? I get beyond the "socially acceptable crap", and get to how a behaviour affects the patient.
Try substituting that with addiction to porn. I'd like to see that one, ok?
Again, and idiot who knows notnhing about psychology.
Addiction to porn. What do you think the key word there is. And I'll give you a hint; it
isn't porn.
Feel free to substitute whatever word you want. Show me how sex addition or addiction to porn is a successful behavior.
Here let me try using your behaviors don't matter technique.
Bob: I jacked off 10 times yesterday.
You: How did that make you feel, Bob?
Bob: Good.
You: Why is that, Bob?
Bob: Because I liked it.
You: Well, Bob, what else did you do?
Bob: Nothing.
You: I don't see a problem with Bob, behaviors don't matter?
Bob: Cool.
You: That'll be $300?
Bob: Do you take EBT cards...
You: Sure, same time next week?