Friendship

[Tilly]

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Well, to be fair, you too are making outrageous claims against Bruce. You can't tell him how he thinks just because a study indicated that many men do this, that or the other. I'm wondering why you get these bees in your bonnet whereby you start almost stalking people, telling them what they think and disbelieving what they tell you. It's quite offensive, when you become like a dog with a bone, imho.

 

[ChrisL]

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

Why are you making it sound as if being attracted to someone of the opposite sex is a bad thing? It's completely normal that it would be difficult for men and women to be "just friends" if they find one another attractive. That is just biology. Sorry if it upsets you so much.

What it is you are one that can not accept someone answer because if it does not subscribe to your thought process then that person is a phony!

Now go **** yourself!

It's not a thought process. It's a fact. Men and women (heterosexuals) are going to be sexually attracted to one another. If you find someone attractive and strike up a friendship and find you really like that person, that is going to accentuate those feelings. If you develop a very close relationship, then that is even making the odds greater that there will be some kind of intimate physical contact between the two. Just biological facts. If these feelings were nonexistent or even RARE, then we wouldn't be getting together and reproducing. Lol.

 

[ChrisL]

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Well, to be fair, you too are making outrageous claims against Bruce. You can't tell him how he thinks just because a study indicated that many men do this, that or the other. I'm wondering why you get these bees in your bonnet whereby you start almost stalking people, telling them what they think and disbelieving what they tell you. It's quite offensive, when you become like a dog with a bone, imho.

Nope, just trying to get people to have an honest discussion instead of trying to make themselves sound special or like they don't experience these normal human feelings and emotions.

 

[ChrisL]

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Well, to be fair, you too are making outrageous claims against Bruce. You can't tell him how he thinks just because a study indicated that many men do this, that or the other. I'm wondering why you get these bees in your bonnet whereby you start almost stalking people, telling them what they think and disbelieving what they tell you. It's quite offensive, when you become like a dog with a bone, imho.

Nope, just trying to get people to have an honest discussion instead of trying to make themselves sound special or like they don't experience these normal human feelings and emotions.

No, you're just being a ***** about this and if I do not act the way you believe I should then I must be a phony.

So come out and call me a damn phony and I will call you a clueless *****!

 

[ChrisL]

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

Why are you making it sound as if being attracted to someone of the opposite sex is a bad thing? It's completely normal that it would be difficult for men and women to be "just friends" if they find one another attractive. That is just biology. Sorry if it upsets you so much.

What it is you are one that can not accept someone answer because if it does not subscribe to your thought process then that person is a phony!

Now go **** yourself!

Now now. No need to throw a temper tantrum.

 

[Tilly]

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Well, to be fair, you too are making outrageous claims against Bruce. You can't tell him how he thinks just because a study indicated that many men do this, that or the other. I'm wondering why you get these bees in your bonnet whereby you start almost stalking people, telling them what they think and disbelieving what they tell you. It's quite offensive, when you become like a dog with a bone, imho.

Nope, just trying to get people to have an honest discussion instead of trying to make themselves sound special or like they don't experience these normal human feelings and emotions.

You are simply doing that thing you do a lot, telling people they really think so and so because you say so. It's very silly and offensive and I don't know why you do this. It's like you can't stop posting about a subject until everyone has submitted to your way of thinking. It's bizarre, and I'm not going to comment any further as I can't be bothered to correspond with someone so mistrustful and dogmatic.

 

[ChrisL]

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Well, to be fair, you too are making outrageous claims against Bruce. You can't tell him how he thinks just because a study indicated that many men do this, that or the other. I'm wondering why you get these bees in your bonnet whereby you start almost stalking people, telling them what they think and disbelieving what they tell you. It's quite offensive, when you become like a dog with a bone, imho.

Nope, just trying to get people to have an honest discussion instead of trying to make themselves sound special or like they don't experience these normal human feelings and emotions.

No, you're just being a ***** about this and if I do not act the way you believe I should then I must be a phony.

So come out and call me a damn phony and I will call you a clueless *****!

Nope. I'm just stating the biological facts. You want to argue against them and claim that you don't have feelings of sexual attraction towards females that you find attractive? Ridiculous.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

 

[ChrisL]

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Well, to be fair, you too are making outrageous claims against Bruce. You can't tell him how he thinks just because a study indicated that many men do this, that or the other. I'm wondering why you get these bees in your bonnet whereby you start almost stalking people, telling them what they think and disbelieving what they tell you. It's quite offensive, when you become like a dog with a bone, imho.

Nope, just trying to get people to have an honest discussion instead of trying to make themselves sound special or like they don't experience these normal human feelings and emotions.

No, you're just being a ***** about this and if I do not act the way you believe I should then I must be a phony.

So come out and call me a damn phony and I will call you a clueless *****!

No need for name calling. Let's try to keep this a civil discussion if at all possible.

Now, you claim that you can be "just friends" with females that you find attractive. I am just calling bullshit on that claim. Nothing personal of course. I don't know anything about you, so calm down. It's just a discussion about friendships. No reason to freak.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

Why are you making it sound as if being attracted to someone of the opposite sex is a bad thing? It's completely normal that it would be difficult for men and women to be "just friends" if they find one another attractive. That is just biology. Sorry if it upsets you so much.

What it is you are one that can not accept someone answer because if it does not subscribe to your thought process then that person is a phony!

Now go **** yourself!

Now now. No need to throw a temper tantrum.

Wow, from the poster that called me a phony?

Taunt me and call me a liar and not want to tell me not to throw a temper tantrum when you have been doing it!

Pot nice to meet you my name is ******* Kettle!

 

[ChrisL]

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

 

[ChrisL]

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

Why are you making it sound as if being attracted to someone of the opposite sex is a bad thing? It's completely normal that it would be difficult for men and women to be "just friends" if they find one another attractive. That is just biology. Sorry if it upsets you so much.

What it is you are one that can not accept someone answer because if it does not subscribe to your thought process then that person is a phony!

Now go **** yourself!

Now now. No need to throw a temper tantrum.

Wow, from the poster that called me a phony?

Taunt me and call me a liar and not want to tell me not to throw a temper tantrum when you have been doing it!

Pot nice to meet you my name is ******* Kettle!

Quit crying like a baby and have a discussion like an adult. You made a claim that is just generally not the case when it comes to men and women. I posted a link to a valid scientific study that validates my claims and you are going off like a child. Just calm down.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Well, to be fair, you too are making outrageous claims against Bruce. You can't tell him how he thinks just because a study indicated that many men do this, that or the other. I'm wondering why you get these bees in your bonnet whereby you start almost stalking people, telling them what they think and disbelieving what they tell you. It's quite offensive, when you become like a dog with a bone, imho.

Nope, just trying to get people to have an honest discussion instead of trying to make themselves sound special or like they don't experience these normal human feelings and emotions.

No, you're just being a ***** about this and if I do not act the way you believe I should then I must be a phony.

So come out and call me a damn phony and I will call you a clueless *****!

No need for name calling. Let's try to keep this a civil discussion if at all possible.

Now, you claim that you can be "just friends" with females that you find attractive. I am just calling bullshit on that claim. Nothing personal of course. I don't know anything about you, so calm down. It's just a discussion about friendships. No reason to freak.

Keep it civil?

You are the one that called me a phony, and a Lair you pathetic excuse of human waste!

 

[Bonzi]

If someone acts like they want to be your friend, talks to you every day then stops, but makes excuses

They are not your friend.... even if they won't admit it.

 

[G.T.]

Tilly is very inuitive. ChrisL loves Bonzi topics. Bruce is not the only one, **** the study.

 

[ChrisL]

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

Of course, this might be different between older people who don't have much of a "sex drive" anymore.

What about men and women in their 20s? Do you think it is more of a challenge for a man and a woman in their 20s who are mutually attracted to maintain a platonic friendship? Do you think it would be more likely that their "friendship" would develop into something more, or at least involve some level of intimacy?

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

In general, in general, in general...

No, you are claiming every man in the whole world and not just in general, so do not move the filed goals, and stick to your opinion that NO man can have a friendship with a woman without thinking about sex.

Also I bet you are one of those that think every man want you, right?

 

[Bonzi]

Oh, so all of those other guys who say that men cannot be "just friends" with women must be lying then. Men have said that they cannot really be "just friends" if the woman is good looking/decent looking and that they will always be "fantasizing" about their "friend." So . . . . what about that? I mean, there are articles about this and everything.

Hmmm, alright it seem you will not accept my comment because of certain amount of men that have written in the past about how they think with their little head between their legs and not the head on their shoulders...

I believe a man and woman can have a friendship that does not result in wanting a little more than just friendship. I have been doing it for years and have never thought about taking my friendship with my female friend to the next level.

I consider her family.

Just how I feel on the subject matter...

Did you read post #21? Makes sense, no?

Read it and do not agree with it because I have had one time where the female told me she was being my friend so she could take it to the next level...

So it can go the other way and you have the rare man that is fine with having a female friend around and not be sexually attracted to the individual.

I know all men are dogs...

So you are going to claim that there is no "sexual temptation" or fantasizing involved in friendships between men and women and that, generally, nothing happens (in most instances)?

No, I am saying it can be done and that is all I am saying. ( The part where a male and female can be friends without sexual feelings )

As long as one of them is gay

 

[ChrisL]

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

In general, in general, in general...

No, you are claiming every man in the whole world and not just in general, so do not move the filed goals, and stick to your opinion that NO man can have a friendship with a woman without thinking about sex.

Also I bet you are one of those that think every man want you, right?

No. I'm claiming for "most" heterosexuals. That is what "generally speaking" means.