Friendship

[Bruce_T_Laney]

On your #4, don't you want to expand upon that . . . IF . . .

Nope, I have a female friend I would never expand the definition of friendship to a little bit more...

Friends are a branch of your family that you get to choose...

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

 

[ChrisL]

On your #4, don't you want to expand upon that . . . IF . . .

Nope, I have a female friend I would never expand the definition of friendship to a little bit more...

Friends are a branch of your family that you get to choose...

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

 

[ChrisL]

Outliers don't count!!! When I participate in these kinds of threads, I am speaking more on the whole than exceptions to the rules! I am not making "personal" comments about anyone's friendships. I'm trying to have a real honest discussion about the matter is all. I'm sick of phonies.

You need to know me in real life before you call me a phony...

I will tell you the same thing and you will be upset because I am not your stereotypical man...

I'm talking about people who will make claims such as "they could never be attracted to their friends." I am calling bullshit.

 

[ChrisL]

Oh, so all of those other guys who say that men cannot be "just friends" with women must be lying then. Men have said that they cannot really be "just friends" if the woman is good looking/decent looking and that they will always be "fantasizing" about their "friend." So . . . . what about that? I mean, there are articles about this and everything.

Hmmm, alright it seem you will not accept my comment because of certain amount of men that have written in the past about how they think with their little head between their legs and not the head on their shoulders...

I believe a man and woman can have a friendship that does not result in wanting a little more than just friendship. I have been doing it for years and have never thought about taking my friendship with my female friend to the next level.

I consider her family.

Just how I feel on the subject matter...

Did you read post #21? Makes sense, no?

Read it and do not agree with it because I have had one time where the female told me she was being my friend so she could take it to the next level...

So it can go the other way and you have the rare man that is fine with having a female friend around and not be sexually attracted to the individual.

I know all men are dogs...

So you are going to claim that there is no "sexual temptation" or fantasizing involved in friendships between men and women and that, generally, nothing happens (in most instances)?

No, I am saying it can be done and that is all I am saying. ( The part where a male and female can be friends without sexual feelings )

It can be done if you aren't too close to the person, maybe. It would be difficult to maintain a platonic relationship with a person you felt attracted to. Usually friendships develop because there is something about the person you find "attractive." This is why it is more difficult for men and women to remain platonic than say two women or two men (heterosexuals of course).

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Nope, I have a female friend I would never expand the definition of friendship to a little bit more...

Friends are a branch of your family that you get to choose...

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

You studies prove in general most men but there are some men that do not behave that way.

I do apologize that you are a cynical individual that can not believe a man can be this way, and I do not need your approval either.

I have stated my stance on this and you can accept it or not but to keep on and on about it because you can not accept it is not my problem!

 

[ChrisL]

Nope, I have a female friend I would never expand the definition of friendship to a little bit more...

Friends are a branch of your family that you get to choose...

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

 

[Tilly]

Nope, I have a female friend I would never expand the definition of friendship to a little bit more...

Friends are a branch of your family that you get to choose...

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Outliers don't count!!! When I participate in these kinds of threads, I am speaking more on the whole than exceptions to the rules! I am not making "personal" comments about anyone's friendships. I'm trying to have a real honest discussion about the matter is all. I'm sick of phonies.

You need to know me in real life before you call me a phony...

I will tell you the same thing and you will be upset because I am not your stereotypical man...

I'm talking about people who will make claims such as "they could never be attracted to their friends." I am calling bullshit.

I am calling your comments bullshit. I can tell my male friends when they ask how they are looking that they look proper, so am I sexually attracted to them?

From your comments I must be!

 

[ChrisL]

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

You studies prove in general most men but there are some men that do not behave that way.

I do apologize that you are a cynical individual that can not believe a man can be this way, and I do not need your approval either.

I have stated my stance on this and you can accept it or not but to keep on and on about it because you can not accept it is not my problem!

I'm not necessarily talking about "behavior." You can have feelings and never act upon them. That certainly doesn't mean the thoughts don't cross your mind.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

 

[ChrisL]

Outliers don't count!!! When I participate in these kinds of threads, I am speaking more on the whole than exceptions to the rules! I am not making "personal" comments about anyone's friendships. I'm trying to have a real honest discussion about the matter is all. I'm sick of phonies.

You need to know me in real life before you call me a phony...

I will tell you the same thing and you will be upset because I am not your stereotypical man...

I'm talking about people who will make claims such as "they could never be attracted to their friends." I am calling bullshit.

I am calling your comments bullshit. I can tell my male friends when they ask how they are looking that they look proper, so am I sexually attracted to them?

From your comments I must be!

Are you bisexual??? WTF? If you are not attracted to MEN, then your statement makes no sense.

So you are claiming that you never have had a sexual feeling or thought about any of your female friends throughout your lifetime? Goodness! You are a ******* saint.

 

[ChrisL]

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

 

[ChrisL]

I guess Mr. Bruce T. Laney is a "special" as he has no sexual feelings towards women he finds attractive. Lol.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

 

[ChrisL]

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

Sexual attraction doesn't make you a dog. It makes you a normal male.

 

[ChrisL]

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

Why are you making it sound as if being attracted to someone of the opposite sex is a bad thing? It's completely normal that it would be difficult for men and women to be "just friends" if they find one another attractive. That is just biology. Sorry if it upsets you so much.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

You are just arguing against hard science and biological facts. No judgment is needed.

No, I am being told by someone that has had bad relationships in her life that all men are dogs, and can not be trusted. ( That is the opinion I have of you from the many responses I have read of yours! )

Where do you get the idea that I've had bad relationships? You know what? Never mind. Who cares?

You are making an outrageous claim here. That is all.

Wow, and what have you been doing?

You can dish out the insults and innuendo's all you want but I can not come back with one of my own?

You have been calling me a phony and claiming I am a dog in every response to me...

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

I guess Mr. Bruce T. Laney is a "special" as he has no sexual feelings towards women he finds attractive. Lol.

Go **** yourself you worthless *****!

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

NO sexual feelings for her? And you are a male? Let's see, you find her attractive and you share common interests and goals, like one another to maintain a friendship but absolutely NO sexual feelings. Hmm.

Yes, it is possible...

I know how dare I break the stereotypical mold!

I am happy with my friendships and have no problem saying I would not bang any of my friends...

Hell I would not bang the majority of the population of the world.

So, I guess I need to be tossed into the abyss because I am one messed up individual...

Also my mate and I have less in common than my friends and I. I am the type that is attracted to the opposite of me and prefer to it where she balances me out...

Why am I even discussing this or even defending my stance with you?

Because it's a discussion board, and you made a claim, and I am skeptical and want to discuss it. Anyone can throw out a claim. The studies prove you wrong though.

Generally speaking, it is easier for women to maintain a platonic friendship with males than vice versa. MOST men and women who find each other "attractive" and like one another to even be friends are going to experience some level of sexual tension.

The studies don't prove Bruce wrong.

Any man that does not act in the way that Chris believe they should act does not exist...

Just my opinion and Chris is the hardcore poster that will not accept anything I write because she has never met a man that is not a dog!

Why are you making it sound as if being attracted to someone of the opposite sex is a bad thing? It's completely normal that it would be difficult for men and women to be "just friends" if they find one another attractive. That is just biology. Sorry if it upsets you so much.

What it is you are one that can not accept someone answer because if it does not subscribe to your thought process then that person is a phony!

Now go **** yourself!

 

[Lumpy 1]

Nope, I have a female friend I would never expand the definition of friendship to a little bit more...

Friends are a branch of your family that you get to choose...

What I meant was "if" you find the woman unattractive.

The woman that is my friend is attractive and still no sexual feelings for her...

Just how I am...

And what age group are you in? Do you think it is more difficult for perhaps younger people who might be more "hormonal" (for lack of a better word)?

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.