Friendship

[Bonzi]

It doesn't even have to be sex. Just a "special" relationship. Emotional intimacy with the opposite sex is also beyond friendship

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

Of course, this might be different between older people who don't have much of a "sex drive" anymore.

What about men and women in their 20s? Do you think it is more of a challenge for a man and a woman in their 20s who are mutually attracted to maintain a platonic friendship? Do you think it would be more likely that their "friendship" would develop into something more, or at least involve some level of intimacy?

I don't care anymore what you believe.

You already called me a phony and a liar so why should I even respond to a woman that is set in her mind that every man in the world want to have sex with their friends?

You do not like the damn answers, and I am not going to play this stupid asinine game anymore with you!

You're a worthless twit!

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

Of course, this might be different between older people who don't have much of a "sex drive" anymore.

What about men and women in their 20s? Do you think it is more of a challenge for a man and a woman in their 20s who are mutually attracted to maintain a platonic friendship? Do you think it would be more likely that their "friendship" would develop into something more, or at least involve some level of intimacy?

I don't care anymore what you believe.

You already called me a phony and a liar so why should I even respond to a woman that is set in her mind that every man in the world want to have sex with their friends?

You do not like the damn answers, and I am not going to play this stupid asinine game anymore with you!

You're a worthless twit!

Ha ha! Funny!

What happen to let keep this civil?

Right, your civil is being a ***** about everything and if someone disagree with you then they're a phony!

Welcome to iggy you *****!

 

[Bonzi]

I'm getting all nasty in the FZ today - I guess they are ignoring me

 

[Bonzi]

Chris you are a gem. You can get under anyone's skin!

 

[ChrisL]

I think someone has a physical or romantic emotional attracting in EVERY male/female friendship
I would say EXCEPT for the gay female/male or gay male/female - but even then.......

I would agree with that. Most often there is going to be some level of sexual or intimate feelings/gestures/etc. To deny that is to deny biological instincts!

Then you never had a real friend from the opposite sex!

A platonic friendship is possible between men and women . . . but I think in most cases that is going to be extremely difficult for one or even both.

The study: It may sound stereotypical, but men do have sex on the mind. Researchers at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology surveyed 308 heterosexual undergrad students between the ages of 18 and 30, asking them about their friendships, sexual attractions and experiences with misread social signals.

The result was that men commonly overperceived sexual interest from women, with the female participants saying they'd had their friendly actions misunderstood by men about 3.5 times over the past year on average. On the flip side, women reported underperceiving sexual interest from men, although markedly less so.

 

[Bruce_T_Laney]

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

Bruce isn't a generality or a stat, and you asked for his experience then promptly insult him and call him a liar. And we're not even in the flame zone.

She's in iggy and no more of that stuff!

 

[Lumpy 1]

Why don't you just pass judgement and get it over with.

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

I don't want to read all those and I don't have to.

In the past, when I was single and all, I met plenty of women that were sexy and available that I would't touch with a ten foot pole. It's not unheard of in other words.

Or they wouldn't allow you to touch them with a ten foot pole is probably more the reality of the situation. Lol. I'm sure you aren't half the stud you think you are.

Well, certainly not anymore.. .. You ever consider that not every man wants to jump your bones, your issue with Bruce has more to do with you than him.

 

[Tilly]

If someone acts like they want to be your friend, talks to you every day then stops, but makes excuses

They are not your friend.... even if they won't admit it.

Yea well friendship is a 2 way street innit? There could be 7, 000 reasons. They coulda expected the other person 2 talk first. Etc etc. Thats a weak barometer. How about are they there for ya when like, your best friend dies or something, and not small shit like that other shit?

The problem with most friends is they are too needy of your time. Drives me nuts. I like friends that you can ignore for months at a time

 

[Spinster]

Having friends is too much work it always seems they ask way more of me than I ask of them

My husband and I have noticed that.
People we have tried to make friends with always want to do things on THEIR terms.
If we invite them to things they are not interested in, they say no.
But we will do things we don't want to do with them, as a sacrifice for the friendship.

It always seems to be a one-way or one-sided friendship, with us always making the sacrifices.

Then those aren't true friendships, but rather like acquaintences. People confuse the two terms, I believe.

 

[ChrisL]

Chris you are a gem. You can get under anyone's skin!

It's so easy! Takes minimal effort on my part.

 

[ChrisL]

Chris has already done it.

It their opinion and if they believe a man can not do it then so be it, and if she believe I am a phony then so be it...

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

I don't want to read all those and I don't have to.

In the past, when I was single and all, I met plenty of women that were sexy and available that I would't touch with a ten foot pole. It's not unheard of in other words.

Or they wouldn't allow you to touch them with a ten foot pole is probably more the reality of the situation. Lol. I'm sure you aren't half the stud you think you are.

Well, certainly not anymore.. .. You ever consider that not every man wants to jump your bones, your issue with Bruce has more to do with you than him.

I don't know what that has to do with the subject. Generally speaking, it is difficult for men and women (who find each other attractive) to keep it strictly platonic. Those are just the facts. Do you want to argue with biology? Go ahead. Bring it.

 

[Tilly]

Relax, she's skewering your pickle and testing your voracity, you don't feel like a phony, that's the end of it on your side.

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

Bruce isn't a generality or a stat, and you asked for his experience then promptly insult him and call him a liar. And we're not even in the flame zone.

She's in iggy and no more of that stuff!

Sounds like a good idea. I can't stand it when she goes off like this. It's a pity, because when she's in 'normal' mode, she writes some really good posts.

 

[ChrisL]

Chris you are a gem. You can get under anyone's skin!

It's especially easy when dealing with a bunch of crazy people too!

 

[Tilly]

Chris you are a gem. You can get under anyone's skin!

It's so easy! Takes minimal effort on my part.

Interesting that you think that is such a worthy achievement.

 

[ChrisL]

Okay. Just what about any of my statements do you disagree with and why? What is "phony" about them. Please quote the posts you take issue with. TYIA.

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

Bruce isn't a generality or a stat, and you asked for his experience then promptly insult him and call him a liar. And we're not even in the flame zone.

She's in iggy and no more of that stuff!

Sounds like a good idea. I can't stand it when she goes off like this. It's a pity, because when she's in 'normal' mode, she writes some really good posts.

Are you claiming that my posts are false? That is ABNORMAL for men and women to be sexually attracted to one another?

 

[ChrisL]

Chris you are a gem. You can get under anyone's skin!

It's so easy! Takes minimal effort on my part.

Interesting that you think that is such a worthy achievement.

I'm saying that it isn't. It's easy with the nutbags who frequent the forum. Lol. Like taking candy from a babe. *sigh*

 

[ChrisL]

Like I said, the only differentiation between friends and lovers is the physical or romantic attraction/feeling.

The only way to have that is for both parties to have ZERO interest in that sex.

A gay man and a gay woman likely could be friends.
A straight woman and a straight woman
A straight man and a straight man

Of course, if one of the parties involved in the friendship is gay, it is going to be a completely different situation.

 

[ChrisL]

I stand by my claim that it is difficult for heterosexual men and women to maintain a strictly platonic friendship if they find one another attractive - or - if one finds the other one attractive.

 

[Tilly]

The part that you believe all men and it is not all men but a good majority of men think that way. Also there are women that act like the men you are writing about but I bet you believe no woman can act that way,right?

You are so hardcore on the thought that no man can be friends without being attracted to their female friend which tell me that you never had any real male friends or you believe they are all attracted to you, which I really doubt!

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

Bruce isn't a generality or a stat, and you asked for his experience then promptly insult him and call him a liar. And we're not even in the flame zone.

She's in iggy and no more of that stuff!

Sounds like a good idea. I can't stand it when she goes off like this. It's a pity, because when she's in 'normal' mode, she writes some really good posts.

Are you claiming that my posts are false? That is ABNORMAL for men and women to be sexually attracted to one another?

Did I say that?

 

[ChrisL]

In general, I am right. Do you disagree with that?

Bruce isn't a generality or a stat, and you asked for his experience then promptly insult him and call him a liar. And we're not even in the flame zone.

She's in iggy and no more of that stuff!

Sounds like a good idea. I can't stand it when she goes off like this. It's a pity, because when she's in 'normal' mode, she writes some really good posts.

Are you claiming that my posts are false? That is ABNORMAL for men and women to be sexually attracted to one another?

Did I say that?

Well then, why don't you tell me what it is that you disagree with.