I wouldn't be OK with it either. In fact, I'd have a major meltdown and ask that person to leave. If someone feels the need to pray, they should do it quietly - the funeral is for the deceased and the family. It's not a place to proselytize.
In this case, it was a member of the family, Coloradoetc's family.
It's a shame that you don't feel people should be able to grieve as they feel best. Glad you're not in my family, and FYI, many members of my family are not Christian. Some are Buddist, some are athiest, etc.
So, Sheila, if one of your atheist of buddhist family members requested that they have a non-religious celebration of their memory after they die, would you think its okay to stand up and ask everyone to bow their heads in a prayer? Do you think that wouldn't be disrespectful to the deceased's memory?
I'm imagining that it was the preachin' that offended and not the prayin'.
I wasn't there, so I obviously don't know... but I've seen the difference between praying: "Lord, I pray that Granny is in a better place and I ask you to comfort us in this time of grief..." and preaching: "Now is the time for all of you to get right with Jesus so you don't spend eternity burning in hell..."
Rarely do short, heartfelt prayers offend...
Colorado?
-Joe
Actually it was both. My grandmother didn't want religion at her funeral. My uncles, my father, my brother, my step-mother, my uncle's life partner, my cousin...most of my family is agnostic, atheist, or rosa-crucian which is a spiritual belief but not a religiouns one. When my aunt stood up, opened her prayer book, and told us all the my grandmother was in Heaven with God she not only offended the majority of the family (which is a matter of taste), but more importantly is that she disrespected my grandmother's request. When she began to talk about how Jesus is our one and true savior, the tension in the room became palpable. She knew what my grandmother had requested. We all did.
People can grieve however they want. But if when they all dealing with grief they masturbate, and that offends some people, shouldn't they do it in private? Kindof an extreme example, but the principle is the same.
If this was how she grieved, then she could have done it silently or privately, or somewhere other than where my grandmother asked it not to be.
She demonstrated the self-righteousness that some people, particularly those of monotheistic evanglist religions, use to justify forcing their religion into someone else's traditions, culture, rituals, or lifestyle. Sheila is skirting the issue: kinda like not allowing people to have same-sex marriages and then saying it has to do with special rights, but not saying it has to do with their personal religion - even though we all know that's what its about.