I got this idea for a discussion by a misunderstanding in a different thread. I can most definitely admit that I am overweight and I know that that isn't healthy as I've been trying to slim down, but I can never understand these women in popular culture that think it's alright to starve themselves just to be considered eye candy for men.
I don't even see how boys/men find them attractive but then again, I'm a woman so what do I know? Then again the man that I'm currently with agrees with me and the fact that some occupations actually require this (like modeling for one) is sickening to me.
I'm female & when I was young my weight topped out at 110 pounds around age 14 (5' 4"). I was very slender and recently saw some photos of myself during my college years and the word "boney" came to mind.
The thing is though, that was just how I was born, with genetics, and a high metabolism rate so that nothing I did would allow me to gain weight which I wanted to do my entire life simply because I was aware that guys appeared to prefer curvier women. I was never able to though, at BEST, I was able to get up to around 113 pounds from 110 which was some weight gain but not appreciable
I was not unhealthy, that was just my body. A few years after entering my 40s I picked up, without trying, about 10 pounds. If I had to guess I would say it was due to a combination of moving to Seattle with it's overcast skies or 9 months out of the year compared to a constantly (more or less) sunny southern California, the introduction to my regular diet of Starbuck's caramel macchiato prepared with 8 raw sugars, extra caramel and lots of whip cream with a caramel drizzle, and a thing with which I was completely unfamiliar called perimenopause.
Long story short, our hormones play a HUGE part in the regulation of our metabolism as well as our mental & emotional wellbeing. If they get out of whack, then lots of problems can develop included unwanted weight gain.
Being comfortable in your own skin I think is more important than trying to meet the standards of others as long as your weight isn't putting you at risk health wise but if you want to be more specific, I would advise you to ask your doctor what the negative implications are of being overweight and then focus on that instead of the actual number on the scale.