Zone1 Divorce - The BIGGEST "Red Flag" of them all

[80zephyr]

I dated my wife 7 years before we got married. I wanted to be sure.

 

[Dragonlady]

Feminism has also allowed women to kill babies. Congratulations! MAGA is not a person it is a vision to return to American greatness before feminism and Marxism corrupted traditional American values. A time when women understood themselves and cherished the men in their lives. Feminism sold hatred which is so evident in your posts.

What an idiot comment. You're projecting your hate onto me. GOD gave us a choice. MAGA men took that away.

Women didn't "cherish the men in their lives". Given that they had no right to own property, vote or have rights of their own, they were little better than the chattel slaves their husbands owned.

When I applied for a mortgage to buy out my ex-husband and keep the house in 1978, my mortgage application was turned down because the mortgage officer wouldn't lend to a woman. Those days are over.

Feminism has NOTHING to do with hatred and everything to do with giving women power over their own lives. THIS is why you hate feminism. You want to control women, and strip them of power.

Hating women is a "traditional American value"???? Who knew? Feminism doesn't sell "hatred". According to you, only men can have life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. MAGA hates women.

 

[initforme]

Things have change significantly during my life, and if I were young today I would avoid serious relationships and above all having children. People no longer have the patience and the empathy to be in serious relationships. Society revolves around Me Me Me and Mo' Money! today and it is a horrible environment to raise children in. America's problems are not political, they're social because our social fabric has been disintegrated.

Workers are going backwards and have been for numerous years. Wages go up slightly but health insurance and inflation more than gobble those teeny tiny raises up. Then add gas, etc. Theres no $ to buy a house, etc.

 

[Dorian Mode]

What an idiot comment. You're projecting your hate onto me. GOD gave us a choice. MAGA men took that away.

Women didn't "cherish the men in their lives". Given that they had no right to own property, vote or have rights of their own, they were little better than the chattel slaves their husbands owned.

When I applied for a mortgage to buy out my ex-husband and keep the house in 1978, my mortgage application was turned down because the mortgage officer wouldn't lend to a woman. Those days are over.

Feminism has NOTHING to do with hatred and everything to do with giving women power over their own lives. THIS is why you hate feminism. You want to control women, and strip them of power.

Hating women is a "traditional American value"???? Who knew? Feminism doesn't sell "hatred". According to you, only men can have life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. MAGA hates women.

Feminism is dead. The left has moved on to embracing Islam and Sharia. Now put your hijab on and learn your place.

 

[Dorian Mode]

Workers are going backwards and have been for numerous years. Wages go up slightly but health insurance and inflation more than gobble those teeny tiny raises up. Then add gas, etc. Theres no $ to buy a house, etc.

That's been happening for millennia. Winners stay ahead of the curve, losers fall behind. People just need to figure out how to win in the game of life. It's not that hard, especially in America.

 

[initforme]

That's been happening for millennia. Winners stay ahead of the curve, losers fall behind. People just need to figure out how to win in the game of life. It's not that hard, especially in America.

So that equates to staying single and living at home with one's parents while working full time and saving until 30 something. According to your winners and losers thing most workers are losers?

 

[Dorian Mode]

So that equates to staying single and living at home with one's parents while working full time and saving until 30 something. According to your winners and losers thing most workers are losers?

Not at all. A good quality of life is just a matter of making wise decisions. If you often make wise decisions you get ahead of the curve. If you habitually make stupid decisions, you fall below the curve and must have your parents or worse, the government, take care of you. I do see that much of the younger generation is not willing to make the tough decisions that guarantee success in life. Instead of working on making themselves more valuable to society, they are way too self-indulged and irresponsible. Survival of the fittest is still the paradigm.

 

[TNHarley]

OK, but did she cause him to be like that?

No personal responsibility? Blaming another for someone turning into an alcoholic?
Of course, this is coming from someone that thinks water saturates itself LOL

 

[sealybobo]

Divorce simply is a great avenue for upwards of half of marriages. Its simply not a bad thing.

It's simply not a bad thing? Are you a woman? Let's ask men or should I say AI

Men often avoid marriage because they can already enjoy the benefits of a relationship, such as companionship and shared expenses, without legal entanglement. Many cite deep financial and legal concerns regarding divorce

Men are increasingly viewing marriage as a risky financial contract. Many fear losing significant assets, savings, or custody of their children in the event of a divorce.

Having seen friends or parents go through messy divorces or unhappy marriages, many men are deeply skeptical of the concept of "forever" and want to avoid similar trauma

 

[sealybobo]

Not at all. A good quality of life is just a matter of making wise decisions. If you often make wise decisions you get ahead of the curve. If you habitually make stupid decisions, you fall below the curve and must have your parents or worse, the government, take care of you. I do see that much of the younger generation is not willing to make the tough decisions that guarantee success in life. Instead of working on making themselves more valuable to society, they are way too self-indulged and irresponsible. Survival of the fittest is still the paradigm.

And let's be honest. It wasn't easy for us back when we were young either. If we didn't go to college, unions were being broken in the 80's and 90's so blue collar went from GM to Walmart jobs. The one thing we had going for us is college was affordable. But after that, good luck finding your first good job. When kids cry about that I wonder if they think it was easy for us to find that first good job. Most of us, it wasn't what we knew it was who we knew. My brother was going to school with a girl who's dad owned a new IT training company. They were hiring salespeople fresh out of college. My first intern was my boss at the gym I worked at. He was a VP stock broker. After college I interned for him at his firm. Got some experience I could put on my resume and talk about at interviews. I was wet behind the ears.

I used to hate friends who's parents could afford to let them do free interns in the fields they were going in to. My parents said if I work for someone they have to pay you. You need the money. We can't afford that.

And today internships pay. So kids, boo hoo. We had to work for FREE to get experience.

 

[Unkotare]

... GOD gave us a choice. ...

Did GOD give the unborn a choice? Did YOU take that away? Your moral high ground is a deep, deep hole.

 

[Unkotare]

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Women didn't "cherish the men in their lives". ...

That's funny, because I know a lot of women who do, just as I know a lot of men who cherish the women in our lives. Your angry, arid bitterness does not represent the whole world.

 

[Unkotare]

...You want to control women, and strip them of power.
...

Everyone who wants to control women and strip them of power raise your hands. What? No one? That's what I thought.

 

[sealybobo]

That's funny, because I know a lot of women who do, just as I know a lot of men who cherish the women in our lives. Your angry, arid bitterness does not represent the whole world.

You can only know who you truly cherish. You can't speak for someone else. You don't know what's in their hearts. And we'd have to take your word for it. Who knows maybe even you don't actually cherish any woman you claim is in your life.

The concept of the "three yous" is a famous psychological and philosophical framework that divides human identity into three distinct and sometimes conflicting versions.

The Person You Think You Are (Self-Perception)

The Person Other People Think You Are (Social Reality)

The Real You (Core Consciousness) is the objective, underlying truth of who you are beneath your own self-judgment and the projections of others. It isn't defined by what you think or what others think about you; rather, it is the raw, untethered awareness that simply experiences life and interacts with the world

 

[Unkotare]

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Having seen friends or parents go through messy divorces or unhappy marriages, many men are deeply skeptical of the concept of "forever" and want to avoid similar trauma

How would YOU know what men think?

 

[Unkotare]

You can only know who you truly cherish. You can't speak for someone else. ...

I have family, I have friends, I have hundreds of students and their families I know well.

 

[StrongAF_2026]

Divorce isn't necessarily a red flag. Sometimes people are young and dumb and marry terrible people who are not suited for marriage.

 

[midcan5]

Interesting. We've been married longer than most of you have existed. Sons are same just less years. Grandkids are in HS and college. No divorces. Why is a hard question, some marriages work and many don't. Look at Trump as an example of a loser at marriage. But think for a moment this is your president and that is without all his criminal liabilities. Many look up to him. Why given his record is hard to fathom. Is 'hate' a reason. Gotta drop bride just came in and needs to shop. LOL

 

[80zephyr]

So that equates to staying single and living at home with one's parents while working full time and saving until 30 something. According to your winners and losers thing most workers are losers?

I know a shit ton of young people. Almost without exception, they are all doing well.

 

[pal]

I have family, I have friends, I have hundreds of students and their families I know well.

Even wife and husband as well friends can divorce as everyone know well.