1. EVERYBODY has hardships. Nobody is immune from them.
You can be gay, straight, black, white, christian, athiest, etc..... Nobody is ever immune from hardships.
2. Being "gay" is a choice. Being a homosexual is not. Yes Virginia, there IS a difference......if you want to get scientific about it.
3. If you do enough research on this, you will find that there are equal scientific "studies" done on both ends of the spectrum. Some "scientists" even proclaim they found the "gay gene". Which is a load of bullshit to me, as they have yet to produce any evidence.
For my belief.......until something else with proven, rock solid facts changes it...........I believe that your "preferences" are just a part of your biological makeup. Being homosexual is as about as "abnormal" as the color of skin you were born with, or the color eyes you were born with, or the color hair you got. Not everybody has blond hair, not everybody has green eyes, not everybody has "white" skin. Not all males are attracted to women, not all women are attracked to men.
Yeah, I know that sounds like there WOULD be a "gay gene", but if there were actually such a thing, there would be a DNA anomally they would have found by now. And they haven't found diddly squat.
So, if you want to consider this "the way one was born", then thats the way you need to think about it.