Being "gay" is like being a democrat or republican. It's a choice you make.
"Gay" is a term that was twisted from the definition of "being happy", to "being a homosexual". But that's just American slang doing it's slimey best to pervert all words into sexual innuedo's.
Like all Christians aren't sadistic, lying, backstabbing perverts..........
Like all Athiests aren't anti-everything know-it-alls............
Like not all Democrats are evil, sadistic, tyrannical, money grubbing murderers..........
Not all "gays" are homosexuals.
Trying to think of a good analogy for you..............hmmmmm.............
How about this........
Homosexual is a state of being.
Gay is a state of chosen mentality.
It's difficult for most people to understand the difference, because they've been brainwashed with all the bullshit, fucktardery, lies, and coersion all their lives about this subject.
Another way to look at it.............
Homosexual is what's always been a part of you, even at conception.
Gay is your personal choice, or........what you have become from a product of your environment.
Not sure if I'm making any of this clearer or not.