Oh, please, don't feel for my niece. She is a spoiled, rotten brat because too many people dote on her already.
Dogs don't take a backseat to children in my universe. You are clearly one of those people who say they "love dogs" but clearly don't really love dogs. You use the word "love" casually, don't you? And when it comes to dogs, well...they're "just dogs," isn't that what you think?
I don't say I love unless I mean it. I don't automatically love someone just because they're "a person." And respect, in case you hadn't heard, is earned.
I certainly don't value all humans over all animals. In fact, I have one dog who means more to me than 99% of the people I know.
Respect is a given in my universe. Disrespect is earned. You have earned my disrespect, you had my respect before you decided to blame an incident on your niece for which she is not responsible and had no control over.
Don't for one minute think I don't know what love of an animal means. Our last dog was with us for 20 years. She was a self taught service dog for my autistic son. Without her, raising my son would have been much much more difficult. She was his built in friend and protector. And during the last years of her life, when she was incontinent, we did not have her put down as many would. We cared for her as you do your elderly. Same with our cat that was with us for 20 years. When they died did I go out immediately and get replacements? No, because those animals cannot be replaced anymore than you can replace your child. Still if the choice came down to between my son and my dog, I will choose my son every time.
Don't tell me I don't know what love is...you are the one who withdrew your love from your niece due to circumstances beyond her control. She deserves better.
I didn't "withdraw" my love from her. I never really loved her in the first place because I hardly know her. She was at my house one time and my sister had a fit because I told the child to quit chasing the Dobermans. I mean, how dare I tell this child to stop doing something. I suggested that this might be a good time to teach her about exercising caution around dogs she doesn't know, but OMG, how dare I.
I recognize that it's not the child's fault that adults are indulging her too much, but she will still pay the price, and someday be that selfish adult that no one likes. Her pampered childhood will not be an excuse for her then. I understand she's being bullied in school...apparently she is already a bit unpopular.
Sorry, but whether you like it or not, what comes to mind when I think of her is that dog being dragged out back and shot. I would have taken the dog, for God's sake, they could have sent the dog to me.
Let me just put it this way, if the choice comes down to between your son and my dog in a burning building, I will get my dog out first. I'll help your son, too, okay, even risk myself doing it, but I'm going to save my dog first. She is not less than a human.