We have two variables at play, the auspicious nature of our universe's life-allowing properties, and the auspicious nature of earth's life-conducive environment. So just add this to the pickup sticks analogy:
Let different universes be represented by immense tables
Let different planetary environments within a universe be represented by innumerable
pickup sticks placed on each table
Now, drop all of those innumerable tables with the sticks on them and watch as the vast majority of tables break or knock all the sticks off when they land (just as most universes don't produce laws making life even possible), and then look as many tables, few and far between, but many, did not break or land slanted and so their pickup sticks remained, and among those many tables, some produced sticks landing straight up at that incredibly rare, 90 degree angle (in other words they produced life).
If any of those rare, up-pointed sticks thinks, "How could both my  table have landed in this perfectly flat position, and then on top of that how could I have landed in this perfectly upright position? It must have been intended this way." Then that stick just has survivor's bias. Innumerable tables failed to land flat (failed to produce stable physical laws) and knocked their sticks off, and even among the tables that landed flat, innumerable numbers of them failed to produce upright pickupsticks (failed to produce life).
Does that make sense?