The only reason the "militant gays" want it to be called a "marriage" is so they can get under our skin.
I am kin to a lesbian and she agrees with me... most all of her friends say a civil union that gives them the same rights as my wife & I is all they want.
To call it a marriage would require changing the definition of the word.
I could care less is Jim and John want to die as a couple of old hens or cocks uurrr ummm, nevermind, I think you get what I am saying.
What if the wife of your kin had a terrible car accident and lost both legs, thereby ruining a very lucrative career dancing around a brass pole?
If she were a male spouse of a disabled pole dancer he could draw benefits from an entitlement program administered by We, The People.
Social Security law defines marriage as between a man and a woman. A guy can woo and discard wives all through his life and as long as he keeps any one of them for 10+ years, she has entitlements through his earnings record, separate entitlements for each lawful wife of 10 years minimum, not something she shares with other auxiliaries or limited by the family maximum. Some congressbitch along the way made damn sure that forgotten wives had something for old age.
Adam and Steve can be in a committed and monogamous relationship for 30 years and have absolutely nothing in shared benefit coverage while Adam and Eve are building government entitlement coverage under each others records every time one of them punches in at work.
Is that fair?
Is life ever fair?
No, but we live in America. Our Constitution demands equal protection, fair play for all, under the law.