boedicca
Uppity Water Nymph from the Land of Funk
- Feb 12, 2007
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"Your sins are terrible and it is just that you suffer".
The man feels guilt, while the woman feels agony...guilt is however pacified by forgiveness, should he be so lucky. If forgiven, he may even feel he is now a "better man".
For her, she has no such luck. She couldn't possibly feel like she is a "better woman".
My advice is to grovel in your guilt. Know that you will never be a "better man" for doing this. Only you are a weaker man. I also advice you to try and seek her forgiveness, but do not patronize. Do not expect it.
If she forgives you, do not apologize for it again...never bring it up for the rest of your life. She will know if you are sorry. Reminding her of her private hell so you can feel better only shows the same selfishness that you provided her in the first place.
You're over complicating it iam... he's a drunken cad, he hurt the woman who was generous enough to love him, now they should just go their separate ways and never cross paths again for as long as they live, end of story.
I find the OP to be a creepy form of braggadocio.
Just sayin'.