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Sounds more like you find one who shares your values and then nit pick them apart until you convence yourself they are not worth your time. No one is perfect...or are they ever going to be. This sounds like the action of someone not willing to even try.
At this point, I'd have to be shown a pretty slam-dunk guaranteed option to give it a try, Shadow. I'm too old and too stuck in my ways to learn anything new at this point; and I have less than no interest in trying to change a woman to my way of viewing things.
Honestly what tends to happen is that I can't find women who share the values I'm looking for who aren't already married or attached. There just aren't a whole lot of traditional women out there these days. Even fewer in the 25-40 age range who aren't already spoken for. Therefore I tend to end up in friendships rather than relationships with these people.
I doubt you are the only one who has ever been hurt or that has been in verbally abusive relationships....romatically or otherwise. Like I said before in another thread...you can let it all go without being closed off completely if you really wanted to.
Obviously I'm not the only person to ever have unpleasant relationships. To even suggest such would be absolute stupidity. At this point there is really very little chance of being able to let it all go. They'd probably end up stuffing me in a padded room with a "hug me jacket" on if I even tried to let it all go. I'm not sure my mind could handle it. It would require a nervous breakdown of Biblical proportions on my part; and honestly I'd probably rather be dead than to go through that.
[Then you have issues, just that plain and simple. You're either incapable or willfully fighting natural urges to love and be loved.
Why not get help instead of cutting off such a wonderful part of life?
In my case it's much more the fact that I've simply decided to shut down and/or ignore those interests. Not that there's any woman out there stupid enough to fall in love with someone like me, but that's a different topic.
What wonderful part of life? The part where you and your partner grow apart? The part where you suddenly realize the person you thought you married isn't really who you thought they were; or even worse you're not who they thought you were? The sitting there and watching them be taken from you by age or disease? Please tell me all about the wonderful parts of opening yourself up to be emotionally eviscerated. I just don't see what the great fascination with that is for most people.
So...you are going from.. I can't find the right girl....to who want's to even try,when relationships grow apart...and people get sick... people die... woe is me, life sucks... blah blah blah.
I think you just want to wallow in self pity.