Ways to control emotions in public

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    How do you deal with having difficulty controlling your emotions in public? I often think of a time as an adult when everyone else in the room was getting emotional and it made me get emotional. I lost it for a few seconds and had to fight back an urge for a brief moment to run out of the room I was so embarrassed. I quickly regained my composure in a few seconds and I'm not sure if anyone noticed I had actually started crying. I tried to subtly check for and wipe away any tears by acting like I was scratching an itch on my face, except I'm not sure if I fooled anybody. Have any of you had experiences like that where you kind of lost it for a second when a room full of about 50 to 100 people getting emotional caused you to struggle to keep control? If so, how did you deal with it?
     
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    My getting emotional is limited to anger. As I have aged I realized I cant beat compliance into everyone so this has caused me to not to get emotional anymore. I'm naturally an observer in public. I love watching people interact and I love saying things and watching people react. If you look at people as a curiosity you will rarely be affected by what they are doing.
     
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    It's a perfectly normal, empathetic reaction to get teared up when others are crying. Why did it freak you out so bad to join them?
    I shouldn't talk. I find it impossible to cry in front of other people. They tell me it's a deep seated trust issue.
     
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    I might add that since humans are social animals we are instinctively geared to be impacted by the emotions, actions, and thought patterns of the people we are around.
     
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    In my opinion there is nothing more pathetic than adults who behave like children, screaming, crying, throwing tantrums....with no self control at all. That shows only weakness.

    One must have some kind of inner mechanism to control oneself, some sort of inner restrain of emotions...how? I don't know....this depens on each one.

    Hemingway said it all - "Grace under pressure"-

    Grace .....no matter the amount of pressure you are under...always behave with dignity.

    My humble opinion.
     
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    I was raised in the 50s and 60s, when males were taught to control their emotions in order to use the mind to its highest useful capacity. There is little useful to be gained from losing control, or collapsing into a blubbering heap.

     
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    Seeing a man fall apart is what will make me fall apart. I went to complete and total pieces when I saw one of my male cousins fall apart after losing his dad (My cousin went forward ten years later.) and I bawled when I saw the film named Con Air for the first time at the end when Nicholas Cage fell into the arms of his wife and daughter.

    God bless you and him always!!!

    Holly

    P.S. As for such a response showing weakness, even if it does, I don't believe that showing your feelings in such a way should be held against anyone, especially if whatever is being dealt with is horrific enough because people mourn and grieve in different ways...unless it only drives them into hurting/killing others and themselves. I pray and I pray and I pray that the Lord forgives those who go on to doing themselves in.
     
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    If you have to cry.... or are having some kind of emotional attack do it in private, go to the bathroom..... whatever

    Don't open your guts for the world to see, it's not becoming.
     
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    Exactly LOL :laugh::laugh::laugh: you are funny! ^^^
     

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