I don't think you could say that. Most divorces start out being one-sided, or so I've read. The one who is being sued for divorce maybe never stopped loving.Joz said:So now my next question.
So, were they happy, truly happy? Or did they just stay together because that's what was done; had more stamina, a stronger fortitude? Have we become soft?
And I quote, "Love is permament" & "Love never dies".
So, does that mean, that those of us who have had the misfortune of experiencing divorce have NEVER truly loved???
I think love has many dimensions. I think "sticking it out" is one of those dimensions.
And what is meant by "Love never dies"? The feeling certainly comes and goes, even for those who would agree that they are "in love."
I think too many people these days get past the feeling of passion that is usually there at the beginning, and they assume it is over. Like Darin & Abbey have said, they have to develop intimacy. Also, there are just simply too many selfish people in our culture. People don't want to work on it, to stay the course, or GIVE. They want the narcissistic excitement of the early days to go on forever, to feed the adoration of self. When it comes down to diapers and bills and morning breath, those people don't want to give the love and support it takes to get each other through real life. Love at its very root is UNSELFISH. So, maybe those people never truly did love. Maybe they were too immature to really give like that.
But intimacy is built on those every-day things. It's being able to trust that someone will still be there with you when you are at your worst. It's being open, sharing, melding your lives. When something impacts the life of one, the other is automatically involved. It's being able to draw strength from each other. Being familiar and able to sense each other's thoughts & feelings, willingness to give space, and acceptance when the need for space is over. Etc.