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You homophrobe!Yeah dudes holding doors for dudes does present a certain gray area
Well a hot woman, it might lead to an ice breaker. But another guy?
I mean, I'm not saying I don't do it, but where I might wait 40 feet for a woman, I'm giving the dude about 5 steps.
Elderly people...I'll go the extra mile for them.
You homophrobe!
Well a hot woman, it might lead to an ice breaker. But another guy?
I mean, I'm not saying I don't do it, but where I might wait 40 feet for a woman, I'm giving the dude about 5 steps.
Yeah I don't get how "homophobe" enters the picture here. I don't have a good enough "gay-dar" to discriminate in the great door holding debate.
I think you either exagerate the distance or the frequency of this extreme event.You're walking out of a building. You are thirty or forty feet from the door. In the doorway is some clown who is also leaving the building. He glances back, over his shoulder, and sees you coming. Remember - you are thirty or forty feet away from the door. What does he do? He stands there, holding the door open for you. He also is staring intently at your face with this "gee, aren't I a nice guy because I'm holding the door for you?" expression on his stupid mug.
Now, you feel obligated to pick up the pace in order to reduce the amount of time Mr. Good Guy has to stand there with his arm straight out at an awkward angle, holding the door open.
I, for one, resent this. I, for one, don't want to feel obligated to pick up the pace, just because some moron with a kind heart thinks he's doing me a favor by holding the door open for me. I don't need him to hold the door open. I am perfectly capable of opening my own door. I am also perfecly capable of catching it as it comes at me in the event the person in front of me elects not to hold the door open for me. No problem.
I wonder sometimes, if these good samaratins ever stop to think that, by holding doors open for folks who are long distances away from the door involved, they are putting the other person in the position of having to either walk much faster than they otherwise intended or appear to be a jerk for not doing so.
The critical part of my criticism here has to do with the long distance between the door and the person it is being held open for. If someone is right in front of you, yes - then holding the door open is probably the proper thing to do. But NOT when you are 30 or 40 feet away from the door.
It's not worth the trade-off to me. Walk out the door and keep going. Not necessary to hold it for me, thank you very much.
Anyone else ever get bothered by this?
how can you call yourself a 'friendly liberal'
Elderly people...I'll go the extra mile for them.
how can you call yourself a 'friendly liberal'
I think both yourself and Echo are totally missing the point of the OP. I am not coming out against holding doors open for others. Heck, I do it all the time. As both of you have pointed out, it's just good manners.
What I am complaining about is people who hold doors open unnecessarily - when the person coming along behind is so far behind, it is obvious that there is something else going on besides just holding a door open. These are people who have an agenda - some kind of deep seated insecurity that can only be dealt with by putting themselves into a perceived position of power or authority over another person by forcing the other person to, as you say in the South, be beholdin' to 'em.
Hold all the doors you want for others. Nothing wrong with good manners. Just don't do it when it is totally unnecessary.
It would depend upon who the person was - some overfed lawyer? no way....
You're walking out of a building. You are thirty or forty feet from the door. In the doorway is some clown who is also leaving the building. He glances back, over his shoulder, and sees you coming. Remember - you are thirty or forty feet away from the door. What does he do? He stands there, holding the door open for you. He also is staring intently at your face with this "gee, aren't I a nice guy because I'm holding the door for you?" expression on his stupid mug.
Now, you feel obligated to pick up the pace in order to reduce the amount of time Mr. Good Guy has to stand there with his arm straight out at an awkward angle, holding the door open.
I, for one, resent this. I, for one, don't want to feel obligated to pick up the pace, just because some moron with a kind heart thinks he's doing me a favor by holding the door open for me. I don't need him to hold the door open. I am perfectly capable of opening my own door. I am also perfecly capable of catching it as it comes at me in the event the person in front of me elects not to hold the door open for me. No problem.
I wonder sometimes, if these good samaratins ever stop to think that, by holding doors open for folks who are long distances away from the door involved, they are putting the other person in the position of having to either walk much faster than they otherwise intended or appear to be a jerk for not doing so.
The critical part of my criticism here has to do with the long distance between the door and the person it is being held open for. If someone is right in front of you, yes - then holding the door open is probably the proper thing to do. But NOT when you are 30 or 40 feet away from the door.
It's not worth the trade-off to me. Walk out the door and keep going. Not necessary to hold it for me, thank you very much.
Anyone else ever get bothered by this?
I try to always hold doors open for the ladies, nowadays they just don't expect it .
For guys, eh.. if they happen to be there, close to the same time..
I try to always hold doors open for the ladies, nowadays they just don't expect it .
For guys, eh.. if they happen to be there, close to the same time..
Some ladies do..
and you are hardly beholdin to some one for opening a door...damn man they arent giving you a kidney
