Beachboy
Irritated Indy Voter
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Wow, seems like much ado about nothing. Are you sure these guys are gay? They don't seem gay to me, seem like three guys just clowning around. Why do they have a girl videoing them, why didn't they get a gay guy to do it?
The whole thing seems like silly college stuff to me, it isn't even shocking. Your family must be really, really uptight. And I'm a 60-year-old woman.
But I guess he's actually told you he's gay, huh, you're not just going by this video? Well, good for you for standing by him, and if he is gay, NO he shouldn't pretend to be straight for anyone.
His parents need to learn the meaning of the term "unconditional love."
I think this is about where your mother is, nephew.
Stop, just stop, don't take her phone calls.
Actually, I never thought of my family as being uptight, though we have been accused of being "Californial." I have always figured we were a comfortable average family. The actual admission of being gay has been made by my nephew, though internet research indicates that homosexual activity is relatively common as experimentation, and frequently changes with age. My nephew could end up bisexual "straight," which means he is capable of being a bisexual, but prefers one women. That would certainly make my nephews life easier. But, I also understand the civil rights issue here. The stats I saw indicated that only about 10% of the population is exclusively gay, 10% is exclusively straight, and 80% of us are bisexual (practicing or not). From what I have read this kind of research is most often estimates prepared by people with a Pro or Anti GLBTQ agenda. So, who knows.
I am leaning your way on the "unconditional love" concept. I am not a guy who gets "obsessed" with things, but I am feeling obsessed about my sister calling her son a "Fag." This did not help the situation. The remark was uncalled for from a parent especially. However, my nephew's email utube was really an over-the-top "hit and run." At the same time I am beginning to see that my nephew could not honestly discuss things with his mother. All he got were Bible quotes that did not address his sexuality concerns about. I have still not figured out whose responsibility it is to explain sexuality to young people ~ the church, the school, the parent, the other guys on the playground, or sneaking a read of Playboy? I learned from Playboy, thanks Hef!
I am trying to get an Episcopaleon minister to visit my sister at her home upstate. At the same time I will ask my nephew to see a psychiatrist of my choosing. A preliminary visit is being discussed before his planned move in with us around Labor Day. The American Psychiatric Association doe not consider homosexuality to be a mental illness, (apparently they have held this view since 1973). The point here is that if either my sister or her son refuse the counseling, the other one wins the, "I have nothing to hide, I am the normal one contest." I have informed my nephew the psychiatrist he will see is recommended by our company doctor, and will "gay experienced." I mean what do we have here? Is gay a matter of genetics, or is it a matter of choice. This problem reeks of politics so it is hard to know what to believe. What am I dealing with here?
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