My New BFF

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    Caution' if you get bored by reading silly personal problems, please read no further.

    I have a new friend who stays at my house every other weekend for the past few months. (We have a garage apt) She lives three hours away and is dating my husbands best friend. My husband does not approve of their relationship because she is still married and has two little kids.

    She is coming tomorrow for three days, and my husband says I have to learn to say "no". I don't see any reason to.

    Any Dear Abby's have any advice?

    Sincerely,

    The Yes Girl
     
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    so, this gal uses your house and husband's friend connection to pretend that she's not married? You are inviting drama into your house. I agree with your husband.
     
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    Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.................................................

    Where do her hubby and kids think she is while she's playing?
     
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    Need more information.

    How long has she been separated from her husband? Is her marriage really over? Where are her two little kids in all of this?
     
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    My question is do you honestly want to get in the middle of the potential problems that could arise? I don't know what your friend's actual home situation is but you could be asking for trouble you don't want.
     
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    I have never met her husband. She says they are separated but share the same house until they figure out the divorce stuff. The husband knows she has a boyfriend. He watches the kids when she's here. I don't think she is deceiving anyone about that. What I didn't mention is that she got a part time job here and seems to be leaning towards relocating. Husbands best friend is not interested in getting married again and he really sucked at it the first time. My husband thibks its a drama that I shoukdnt be involved in. He also thinks I'm being used. I like both of them. Don't see it that way.
     
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    When and if the custody battle starts you are suddenly a material witness for her husband and it's possible you could even open yourself up for a civil suit. I've seen these things get downright nasty and believe me you do not want to be caught in the middle, think about the potential effect on your family and marrage. Be a friend, not an enabler.
     
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    wow. Didn't consider that. Food for thought. Thanks everyone.
     
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    *smacking you upside the head*...hello your new friend who is using you ...okay you may be good with it..but why? if the dude is that into her...let him provide a place to stay...why are you putting yourself out and another thing...its not just your place....if he says no...you should say no...that man will be there long after the "new friend" is gone.
     
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    Never let outsiders get in between family this way.

    In the end you will be sorry.

    She needs a place, pony up money for a motel.
     

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