I Was Raped On New Years Eve...

[Sarah G]

Of course the drunkeness didn't help the situation, but it is still rape which was not the fault of the victim.

It is similar to getting mugged in the bad part of town. Probably it wasn't such a good idea to go for a stroll down that dimly-lit alley, but you are still not at fault for having a crime committed against you.

The issue with the boyfriend...that's a domestic issue that can be worked out several different ways.

What would you do if you were the boyfriend?

Get a good lawyer..

 

[judyd]

My son's ex-wife was raped when she went down the hall to the laundry room (highrise apartment). He had gone to bed and she wanted to do one more load of laundry before turning in. The rapist was hiding in the laundry room (the lock was apparently broken) and took her out of the building at gunpoint and when she finally escaped some neighbors took her to the hospital.

My son's immediate reaction was rage--at everyone. Apparently this is common, especially when a man wasn't there to protect his woman. I know he still feels some guilt after all of this time.

Back to the OP, hopefully this woman will watch how much she drinks from now on. But I don't see this as much different from the "date rape" drugs that men put in a woman's drinks to render her unconscious. Does it really matter how the woman became unconscious--either drugs or alcohol?

 

[☭proletarian☭]

Dump the boyfriend and prosicute the criminals

What about her being so drunk? What if she was acting like she wanted to get laid?

I agree with TM if she was in fact raped.


Interestingly, if she was not assaulted, then she'd be a criminal for filing a false report.

 

[☭proletarian☭]

Drunks can't consent, at least that seems to be what the law says.

And if both parties are intoxicated?

 

[California Girl]

Of course the drunkeness didn't help the situation, but it is still rape which was not the fault of the victim.

It is similar to getting mugged in the bad part of town. Probably it wasn't such a good idea to go for a stroll down that dimly-lit alley, but you are still not at fault for having a crime committed against you.

The issue with the boyfriend...that's a domestic issue that can be worked out several different ways.

What would you do if you were the boyfriend?

Get a good lawyer..

Why?

 

[Si modo]

Of course the drunkeness didn't help the situation, but it is still rape which was not the fault of the victim.

It is similar to getting mugged in the bad part of town. Probably it wasn't such a good idea to go for a stroll down that dimly-lit alley, but you are still not at fault for having a crime committed against you.

The issue with the boyfriend...that's a domestic issue that can be worked out several different ways.

What would you do if you were the boyfriend?

Get a good lawyer..

And why would the boyfriend, who wasn't even in town at the time, need a lawyer?





With some, their stupidity knows no bounds. I guess being a bad boyfriend should be against the law?

 

[☭proletarian☭]

See EZ... doesn't matter how "civil" you try and be on here, some jackass is always ready to talk shit.

Dissapointment. I thought Pail rider had been raped.

I knew some simpleton would try that lame joke... you win.

And it's spelled DISAPPOINTMENT, not dissapointment. Try getting an education, then maybe your brain will have more complex thoughts, and maybe you'll learn how to spell.

Who needs an education when Google spellchecks anything you type into it?

 

[uscitizen]

Dissapointment. I thought Pail rider had been raped.

You know, do you not, that this statement makes you look really, really nasty, right?

I'd be ashamed of myself if I were you, but I guess I have higher standards.

Well when the title of a thread is I was.....

Actually I was feeliing sorry for the other party involved with pail.

 

[Sarah G]

What would you do if you were the boyfriend?

Get a good lawyer..

And why would the boyfriend, who wasn't even in town at the time, need a lawyer?





With some, their stupidity knows no bounds. I guess being a bad boyfriend should be against the law?

I see both you and CG are running a posting marathon again today. No life, loser?

 

[007]

First of all, a woman never asks to be raped or asks for trouble just because of her wardrobe. That's rather idiotic. If a woman wears midi length skirts, black tights, loose sweaters, and sensible shoes and gets raped by a guy with a librarian fetish, she is still raped.

How idiotic.

I beg to differ. I think if you dress like a slut you'll be treated like a slut. BUT... I'm also not saying that that in any way gives a man any sort of permission to have his way. That is an idiotic thought, and not what I was saying. Anyone can avoid bad situations. If it's a known fact that men will cat call, whistle and make lewd comments to women dressed in super slutty clothes, then why are the women dressed like that if they know that's what will happen? One could surmise that these women LIKE that, and are INVITING it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. They wouldn't put themselves in that situation. Same with this chick. Maybe she was dressed slutty and was acting very promiscuous. STILL not saying that gives anyone permission to simply rape her, but if she had any brains at all, she should have known that the potential was there and not either A) dressed the way she did or B) acted the way she did or C) got so drunk or D) all of the above.

People are dumb... I tell ya. Dangle the carrot in front of the horse and see what happens.

Now, onto the alcohol. Yes, apparently guys should be a bit careful about having sex while a girl is drunk. They could have legal ramifications. It doesn't seem too fair to me. But, until the law is capable of providing a clear demarcation among clearly different situations, I'm having a hard time seeing a different solution without making it a very dangerous world for the women who like to drink.

I can't say I've ever had sex with a drunk girl. Never wanted to. What kind of fun would that be? I guess I made some good decisions, even when I was younger and partied. There certainly has been the "drunk chicks" at parties I've been to. I'm glad I ignored them.

 

[L.K.Eder]

Which part of my post says anything about not saying nasty things? Are you confused again, LK?

hence my comment about your standards being non-standardy. moar like variables n' stuff. totally. i mean, jez sayin' you can totally say the nasty stuff wifout violating yer standardoviches, but the evil others must be frowned upon, cinderella. did i speak yer language now, phony punk? totally? just sayin.

Focus is not something to fear, idiot. Now, get back to the kiddie table.

oh, sweet. si modo is in wannabe-mod-mode, again. thread-police is very effective. very. oh yes. maybe if i repeat it a lot. si modo is a great wannabe mod and is very effective in thread policing. oh yeah. now throw some neg rep, you whiny despicable prick.

 

[007]

It wouldn't be the first time a chick got drunk, spread her legs, and then cried rape when she sobered up.

If both people are wasted and neither protests, I don't see how it can be considered rape.

Thank you mani... I guess I using far to many words to say what you were able to in fewer.

How do we know the broad was RAPED? She says she was, but how do we KNOW? She may have told the guy "fuck me," but now she feels all guilty for being so drunk and getting laid that she's crying rape.

I think the moral of this story is, STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM DRUNK CHICKS, they can ruin your life in an instant.

 

[Si modo]

Get a good lawyer..

And why would the boyfriend, who wasn't even in town at the time, need a lawyer?





With some, their stupidity knows no bounds. I guess being a bad boyfriend should be against the law?

I see both you and CG are running a posting marathon again today. No life, loser?

LMFAO! Yet again your idiocy is on parade and all you can do is call names like a baby. TFF!

 

[L.K.Eder]

And why would the boyfriend, who wasn't even in town at the time, need a lawyer?





With some, their stupidity knows no bounds. I guess being a bad boyfriend should be against the law?

I see both you and CG are running a posting marathon again today. No life, loser?

LMFAO! Yet again your idiocy is on parade and all you can do is call names like a baby. TFF!

calling names like a baby. what a cute failure, doodie dos blabnklabla

 

[007]

As far as the alleged raped girl's boyfriend, I think he has a right to be mad, but if he dumps her, she never meant anything to him in the first place.

If I was him, my first order of business would be to find the mother fucker that nailed my woman and beat the ever lovin' dog shit out of him. Then I'd have a damn good talk with the woman and tell her NO MORE DRUNK PARTIES while you're my girlfriend, unless we go together!

 

[Si modo]

As far as the alleged raped girl's boyfriend, I think he has a right to be mad, but if he dumps her, she never meant anything to him in the first place.

If I was him, my first order of business would be to find the mother fucker that nailed my woman and beat the ever lovin' dog shit out of him. Then I'd have a damn good talk with the woman and tell her NO MORE DRUNK PARTIES while you're my girlfriend, unless we go together!

That seems like a reasonable way to handle it.

 

[California Girl]

And why would the boyfriend, who wasn't even in town at the time, need a lawyer?





With some, their stupidity knows no bounds. I guess being a bad boyfriend should be against the law?

I see both you and CG are running a posting marathon again today. No life, loser?

LMFAO! Yet again your idiocy is on parade and all you can do is call names like a baby. TFF!

Yep.

I await an answer as to why the bf needs a lawyer.

 

[Si modo]

I see both you and CG are running a posting marathon again today. No life, loser?

LMFAO! Yet again your idiocy is on parade and all you can do is call names like a baby. TFF!

Yep.

I await an answer as to why the bf needs a lawyer.

This should be good, eh?

 

[JakeStarkey]

Many guys have no trouble boinking women they don't even like, much less being seen in public with them. I am not excusing it, and I don't understand it, but that's what my friends have told me.

 

[JakeStarkey]

Any person who touches a girl who is too drunk to know what she/he is doing is a fucking scumbag criminal.

Drinking isnt illegal, fucking someone who is incompetant is.

I agree. So what should the girls boyfriend do? Is he right to say that if she hadn't gotten so drunk, it wouldn't have happened? Maybe she was dressed slutty and acting all promiscuous. Seems to be the way lots of young women dress and act nowadays.

<snip> A woman has a right to wear what she wishes and drink what she wishes. No asshole had the right to touch her body because of any of this. The law is pretty damned clear on that.<snip>

Yes, the law is clear about that. However, does mitigatation occur if a drunk girl flaunts, teases, rubs, etc.?