Do you think it's okay..........

[archangel]

Sometimes my words don't coincide with my tho'ts. What I meant was, why can't this be enough? Why does involving "others" need to be introduced into the act? There's dating, & role playing & toys & places & dressing up that can be used without resorting to porn.

There are those that do and those that fantacize...me I prefer doing rather than dreaming!

 

[The ClayTaurus]

Me role-playing

TERHOOTS!

 

[dmp]

My boobs make my eyes do this:

 

[Bonnie]

There are those that do and those that fantacize...me I prefer doing rather than dreaming!

Me TOOO!!!

 

[manu1959]

Me role-playing

damn dude.....get a perscripiton for som estrogen

 

[dilloduck]

But it's NOT about mutual agreement - that's not what -Cp's question is about.

It's about what may CAUSE harm - not about 'what somebody FEELS may harm them'

Can watching porn together actually HURT a couple's life together - REGARDLESS of what they THINK is happening.

Depends on the people watching. Any "sin" or "danger" would come from them--not a picture or movie.

 

[The ClayTaurus]

D's picture is eerily similar to the album cover of Aphex Twin's "Come to Daddy"

 

[5stringJeff]

Me role-playing

Nice rack, sweetheart! Come here often??

 

[-Cp]

I'd contend that couples who feel the need to add porn to their relationship are doing so to seek out a form of escapism - never mind the fact that they're watching fornication, committing mental adultry etc...

I'll contend that Porn can easily sneak in and cheapen the sexual side of marriage because it paints a picture that's not real, can cause depression in one or both of the spouses if the other doesn't seem to be "as adequate" as the person on-screen...

We, as a culture love to medicate our minds with things that aren't real... Why do you think porn, video games and TV are such huge industries?

Rather than focus ALL of our attention on our spouse - whom we vowed to love, cherish, honor and respect, many couples say "oh, it's okay to add porn because that helps spice things up"...

If you need spices go look in your kitchen cabinet....

If you want good sex, make it your mission to tend to your spouses emotional, physical and spiritual needs..

Sex is a spiritual experience, and there's no better way to have awesome sex than when both people have a proper relationship with their maker. Why? Because when you're filled with perfect love, the love Corinthians talks about, you'll have no selfish desires whatsoever....

I'll contend that many people are very selfish when it comes to sexual fullfillment.

Next time you want to add porn to your sexual time, instead, try adding a dose of complete unselfishness to it and see what happens!

 

[Abbey Normal]

Then of course there is this infamous Bible verse:

"But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to
lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in
his heart."
Matthew 5:28, KJV

 

[dmp]

I'd contend that couples who feel the need to add porn to their relationship are doing so to seek out a form of escapism - nevermind the fact that they're watching fornication, committing mental adultry etc...

I'll contend that Porn can easily sneak in and cheapen the sexual side of marriage because it paints a picture that's not real, can cause depression in one or both of the spouses if the other doesn't seem to be "as adequate" as the person on-screen...

We, as a culture love to medicate our minds with things that aren't real... Why do you think porn, video games and TV are such huge industries?

Rather than focus ALL of our attention on our spouse - whom we vowed to love, cherish, honor and respect, many couples say "oh, it's okay to add porn because that helps spice things up"...

If you need spices go look in your kitchen cabinet....

If you want good sex, make it your mission to tend to your spouses emotional, physical and spiritual needs..

Sex is a spiritual experience, and there's no better way to have awesome sex than when both people have a proper relationship with their maker. Why? Because when you're filled with perfect love, the love Corinthians talks about, you'll have no selfish desires whatsoever....

I'll contend that many people are very selfish when it comes to sexual fullfillment.

Next time you want to add porn to your sexual time, instead, try adding a dose of complete unselfishness to it and see what happens!

A lot of that is said by people who have a bad sex life. You want good things to be good in the area of Spiritual, physical and emotional needs?
Tend to your spouses Sexual and Intimate needs. They ALL Fuel off eachother.



Sex is JUST as important as any OTHER 'need' in a marriage. I bet it's MORE important than most physical needs (like food, shelter, etc.). It's NEVER "just sex". A clear sign of a person with jacked up mental proccesses regarding sex is if they use the word 'just' just before the word 'sex' in a way which dismisses the event.

"All you think about is SEX!"

"It's JUST sex??!!"

I attend to my spouses sexual needs because I enjoy making her FEEL good. I enjoy BEING that release - that strength - that source of passion.

Too often people are guilty of having sex in hopes the feelings would come along later. Again, SEX is a symptom of a feeling. Sex is a symptom of a husband and wife's LOVE and DESIRE and NEED for one-another. Where there is NO sex there exists a husband or wife who may be in need of SERIOUS professional help, assuming all esle is okay (they aren't going thru Chemo, etc.).

 

[dmp]

Then of course there is this infamous Bible verse:

"But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to
lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in
his heart."
Matthew 5:28, KJV

Then of course is the fact that sexual arrousal is not lust. They aren't tied together.

 

[Abbey Normal]

Then of course is the fact that sexual arrousal is not lust. They aren't tied together.

Honest question- how are they different?

 

[dmp]

Honest question- how are they different?

They aren't tied together. I can be aroused by an upside-down coke bottle; doesn't mean I'm LUSTING after the coke bottle, right?

I believe nobody can 'lust' without deep-seeded, burning, consuming desire. Lust...Covet...those things. They stem from the heart, not the genitals.

 

[Abbey Normal]

They aren't tied together. I can be aroused by an upside-down coke bottle; doesn't mean I'm LUSTING after the coke bottle, right?

I believe nobody can 'lust' without deep-seeded, burning, consuming desire. Lust...Covet...those things. They stem from the heart, not the genitals.

You guys really can compartmentalize! I will have to contemplate this differentiation with my feminine connection-making white-matter brain.

 

[dilloduck]

They aren't tied together. I can be aroused by an upside-down coke bottle; doesn't mean I'm LUSTING after the coke bottle, right?

I believe nobody can 'lust' without deep-seeded, burning, consuming desire. Lust...Covet...those things. They stem from the heart, not the genitals.

cmon folks--animals have sex

 

[GotZoom]

I can be aroused by an upside-down coke bottle; doesn't mean I'm LUSTING after the coke bottle, right?

Really?

Sorry..I just don't see it.

 

[5stringJeff]

They aren't tied together. I can be aroused by an upside-down coke bottle; doesn't mean I'm LUSTING after the coke bottle, right?

I believe nobody can 'lust' without deep-seeded, burning, consuming desire. Lust...Covet...those things. They stem from the heart, not the genitals.

And when you're watching porn, you're not lusting after the actresses in the movie?

 

[dmp]

You guys really can compartmentalize! I will have to contemplate this differentiation with my feminine connection-making white-matter brain.

It's not guys. It's 'people'. You're confusing sexual excitement with lust, dear. Unlike me having sex, lust takes TIME.

Really?

Sorry..I just don't see it.

:wank:
Ass - I'm at WORK and now I'm all sticky

And when you're watching porn, you're not lusting after the actresses in the movie?

Me? No.

Becoming sexually AROUSED while watching porn makes me want to have sex...but not with the woman on TV.

 

[5stringJeff]

Me? No.

Becoming sexually AROUSED while watching porn makes me want to have sex...but not with the woman on TV.

I find that very hard to believe.