But, if you are in a marriage, your first responsibility is to each other. If you are going to work as a team, you've got to make sure all your players are in good shape. A weak player weakens the ability of the team. It's the teammates responsibility to look out for one another, to position each according to his/her strengths, and to fill in the weak spots.dilloduck said:Some is fine---and if the courtship was honest, the other had probably shown a natural and willing propensity to do those few things. Some mates don't need constant attention to know the are loved, appreciated or whatever. Why get commited? Two can often do larger tasks than one if they dont constantly whine about not getig thier fair share. To me a loving person takes care of him/her self as much as possible as to not burden the other. If you love em---dont ask em to do crap for ya all the time. If they love you they will--just maybe not on demand.
I am NOT (and I'm sure Starla wasn't, either) advocating whining, nagging, mind games, petulence, etc. That is SELFISHNESS, the OPPOSITE of love. But, both have to make themselves aware of their spouse's needs, and attempt to give if a relationship is going to have any depth.