Do you think it's okay..........

[JOKER96BRAVO]

So you're saying that if Mm & I are out, I go to the ladies room and when I return, I come up behind him & whisper in his ear, "Hey Sailor, come here often?" that I'm wrong?

I never said it was wrong

 

[Bonnie]

None...
Wouldn't you like to think that it was actually you in the outfit that turned
him on. Truth is, you could have any woman in the room dressed like a nurse
and get the same results.

LOL Your a freeky deeky JB. So tell me then what is it your wife could do that would turn you on?

 

[Bonnie]

What if Mm asks me to wear high heels? Only high heels. Is he still making love to me in high heels or is he making love to the high heels? mm is NOT a very visual man so realize this is all hypothetical.

I think JB is saying it is pointless and you should just leave the leave the heels in the corner let MM look at the heels and let him have his fun that way on his own???

OR he could be saying that he thinks MM should just take you naked as is no heels, no role playing and get turned on that way au natural? Which is also a novel idea IMO.

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

LOL Your a freeky deeky JB. So tell me then what is it your wife could do that would turn you on?

Lots of stuff, but I would never require her to act as someone else.

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

I think JB is saying it is pointless and you should just leave the leave the heels in the corner let MM look at the heels and let him have his fun that way on his own???

OR he could be saying that he thinks MM should just take you naked as is no heels, no role playing and get turned on that way au natural? Which is also a novel idea IMO.

What I'm actually saying is there's no difference in getting turned on by the
image of a Nurse be it movies or a real person. The arrousal comes from the
image and how one connects the image to a personal fantasy.

If one thinks porn is bad then they could equally think role playing is bad.
I'm personaly ok with both.

 

[manu1959]

Whomever you want it to be :cof:

hmmmmmmmm.....menage a three stooges...very cool

 

[The ClayTaurus]

I think Joker's point is there a difference between just wearing a french maid outfit to bed, or in the bedroom, and wearing a french maid outfit and actually act like a maid, only to be taken advantage of while you're dusting or whatever.


You can dress up in anything, and then there is acting as something you are not. And in that context, I guess I agree with Joker.


If you get turned on by your wife pretending to have an occupation that she does not, and to act in a way that she normally does not, than that is lusting after something which your wife is not. She's pretending for you.

 

[Joz]

When is a wife NOT a maid???

 

[Bonnie]

What I'm actually saying is there's no difference in getting turned on by the
image of a Nurse be it movies or a real person. The arrousal comes from the
image and how one connects the image to a personal fantasy.

If one thinks porn is bad then they could equally think role playing is bad.
I'm personaly ok with both.

Actually I agree with you, nothing makes me happier than to know someone is turned on by me as is without role playing and costumes

 

[Joz]

Which brings us back full circle.

Does porn harm a marriage?

 

[GotZoom]

I think Joker's point is there a difference between just wearing a french maid outfit to bed, or in the bedroom, and wearing a french maid outfit and actually act like a maid, only to be taken advantage of while you're dusting or whatever.


You can dress up in anything, and then there is acting as something you are not. And in that context, I guess I agree with Joker.


If you get turned on by your wife pretending to have an occupation that she does not, and to act in a way that she normally does not, than that is lusting after something which your wife is not. She's pretending for you.

And everyone else is saying.... It's still your wife.

Doesn't matter what she is wearing..what she is pretending to be..what she is saying or doing.......it's still your wife.

What two people want to do in the privacy of their own home is up to them.

If they both agree..and they both like it, then more power to them.

 

[Joz]

......
What two people want to do in the privacy of their own home is up to them.

If they both agree..and they both like it, then more power to them.

To which I will reiterate, why argue the homosexual issue if it's okay between two adults?

 

[The ClayTaurus]

And everyone else is saying.... It's still your wife.

Doesn't matter what she is wearing..what she is pretending to be..what she is saying or doing.......it's still your wife.

What two people want to do in the privacy of their own home is up to them.

If they both agree..and they both like it, then more power to them.

Oh I totally agree. I have no problem with porn either. I just understand where joker is coming from, logically, with how the reasoning behind why porn is bad might be flawed, because you're fantasizing about someone else.

Your wife as a police officer really isn't who your wife is, it's a fantasy of your wife.

That's all.


Personally I don't think you wipe the slate either way and say it's ok or it's not ok. I know of marriages that work with and without porn, and know of marriages that have failed with and without porn.

 

[manu1959]

To which I will reiterate, why argue the homosexual issue if it's okay between two adults?

as long as no one is dressing up in a maids outfit i really don't care

 

[JOKER96BRAVO]

Oh I totally agree. I have no problem with porn either. I just understand where joker is coming from, logically, with how the reasoning behind why porn is bad might be flawed, because you're fantasizing about someone else.

Your wife as a police officer really isn't who your wife is, it's a fantasy of your wife.

That's all.


Personally I don't think you wipe the slate either way and say it's ok or it's not ok. I know of marriages that work with and without porn, and know of marriages that have failed with and without porn.

Well said.
It really all comes down to mutual agreement.
How far is too far for you hun?

 

[dmp]

Me role-playing

 

[GotZoom]

To which I will reiterate, why argue the homosexual issue if it's okay between two adults?

For many people, that is a morality issue.

Hmm...what if a guy wants his wife to dress up as a man. Or vice versa.

Never mind.

 

[GotZoom]

Me role-playing

There goes my appetite.

 

[dmp]

Well said.
It really all comes down to mutual agreement.
How far is too far for you hun?

But it's NOT about mutual agreement - that's not what -Cp's question is about.

It's about what may CAUSE harm - not about 'what somebody FEELS may harm them'

Can watching porn together actually HURT a couple's life together - REGARDLESS of what they THINK is happening.

 

[The ClayTaurus]

Well said.
It really all comes down to mutual agreement.
How far is too far for you hun?

WHO YOU CALLIN' HUN, PUNK?!!??!!??!