A USMB friend just suggested that the CDZ isn't more popular because most folks posting at USMB LIKE the personal insults, food fights, and general hostility. It is a form of recreation to them. Invariably the trolls will interpret or characterize a call for civility as no different that discouraging differences of opinion.
I'm now thinking about that. Is it true? Are there too few people who actually embrace civility and intelligent discussion of issues for a CDZ to become as popular as the politics forum where personal insults are allowed?
In general, civility is a wonderful thing, I have also found that, in general, if you treat people with respect, you get it. I remember getting a job once working in a shop with a guy that was famous for having a foul mouth. The strange thing is that after a couple of days of working with me he cleaned up his act, at least around me. I never said a word to him about what he said, I just didn't feed into it. If people want civility, they need to do the same thing, give it, and then let others see them as an example.
The problem I have is when people step in and demand that I adhere to an artifical standard. If someone tells me they never respond to anyone who uses a certain tone, I will go out of my way to use that tone just to make a point. One poster in particular was famous for insulting people, then putting them on ignore when they returned the favor.
Anyone that really wants a civil tone should go out of their way to insure that they set an example, and then adhere to it by not demanding that others toe the line.
I wish I could say the civility begets civility at USMB. I have not seen that to be the case with some. And there are just enough of those 'some' that when they organize to disrupt and derail a thread with uncivility, they too often succeed.
But maybe you're right that requesting civility is like waving a red flag in front of a bull to some people?
We do manage to maintain an acceptable level of civility say in the Coffee Shop, but it requires diligence and determination and dealing appropriately with the uncivil. There are a lot of USMB members who highly resent a civil environment like that.
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