Deal with reality. Educate.
ok, we don't have to agree with the exact specifics
what do you think can be done to make things better?
personally, I really don't know
but I do think that finding a way to encourage men in the black community to assume leadership roles would be a great place to start - would you at least agree with that? (note - I am not saying that women should not be encouraged as well; but I think the bigger issue is with the men walking away from their responsibilities, does not mean they have to stay in bad marriages, but at least not walk away from the whole situation)
digging deeper; how do we start to change the mindset that behaving responsibly is akin to "acting white" or being an "Uncle Tom"???