ricechickie
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Be careful with the alcohol. it is a dangerous drug.I have been told by others that losing a child is the worst thing.He was my first big loss. I am definitely getting through. I am finally just getting adjusted to being alone. Yes, that's taken almost a year and a half.
Dear ricechickie I would be lost without my honey.
Bless you and you are doing great to make it that first year.
Wow. You are very brave and I admire you.
This has to be harder than losing a parent. With other family,
the first two years are hardest, if you can make it to 5 you can make it to 10.
I think I would just want to give up and not do anything if I lost my honey.
So obviously military families who lose their sons or daughters have the worst grief from it.
But grief is grief.
Grief comes from losing something that you love.
I would cry now if I lost my cat. I love my cat.
I would cry if I lost my sister too. Or my niece. I love them too.
In Greek there are 3 kids of love. Unselfish love is the highest of these. They are usually reserved for our children. You cannot replace children.
I can't even fathom losing one of my children. I think that would be harder. But grief, especially at the early months, can be hell.
Anything that dulls the pain is fair game. I have lost myself in work, then zombied in front of the tv with a drink. I'm emerging from that stage.
It can get out of control if you don't have rules.
And it can make your grief worse if you drink too much since chemically it is a depressant and already being emotionally depressed it could push you over the edge.
You definitely need to have a one drink limit per day as a woman.
That ship has sailed.
I know that I shouldn't rely on it, but drinking was part of my life before he died, too.