Eightball
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- Oct 13, 2004
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I've been married for going on 18 years. I'm completely comfortable with a little harmless flirting, I don't think it "leads" to anything.
Glad your comfortable......if you have children......are they?
I grew up in a family where dad and mom entertained a lot in our home. Married folks danced with different partners in our livingroom to LP's, and of course there was booze along with the entertainment. I still remember my Dad putting his arm around another of his guest's wives and hugging her or seeing him and the lady "teasing" back and forth in that little innocent flirting act. I also remember some husbands of the guests also trying to hug and kiss my Mom. The parties broke up late at night, and couples went home .....etc.
I didn't like it growing up. As my mom and dad's son, it scared me, and made me feel rather insecure, seeing this behaviour with my dad and those that attempted it toward my mom.
Flirting may seem innocent to one party, but you can't interpret the mind-set of the other party. Ad a little booze to the equation, and you have the potential for disaster.
Also, marriage is a commitment that says, "Your the only one for my life.". It's an insult, and a disrespectful act to a life long committment of love in sickness, and health, and it's also "crappy" parental modeling for one's children.
Too say, that "My kids, never see the innocent flirting." is to say that it's done without their knowledge because one knows it's setting a bad example as a parent. To allow your kids to see the "flirting" is just plain, irresponsibility, and also gives one in later years no reasons for sympathies from others when the kids grow up and have a warped idea of the marriage committment and reap havoc because of it.
I also have observed that this "innocent" flirting is usually enhanced or initiated in conjunction with mood altering chemicals such as alcohol, pot, and the popular drugs of choice.