What % of People on USMB are Losers?

[Bonzi]

In all honestly, "loser" is self defined ultimately.
What I view as a loser, has no bearing on the person I think is a loser if they are happy with themselves.
If someone wants to be homeless and is content in that (I mean by choice), they are not a loser. They make their choice, and live with it. Even if it's someone that lives in a shack. Or a mansion.

I am an underachiever. I have been called a loser, but, I am comfortable financially where I am. I don't want to have a high paying, prestigious job. I want a calm life, where I can do the few things I really enjoy, and keep my sanity.

Calling people losers on here is wrong and mean-spirited in retrospect.

 

[Bonzi]

I wonder how many people actually just read and don't post.
I could not bear that.

 

[saveliberty]

Or...

saveliberty:

short answer bus and shocked he can feed himself.

tries to be funny, but just needs help.

entertaining in a nerdy kind of way.

I look him up to see what mischief he is into now.

pretty darn funny and spot on.

I'm just glad when you reply to my post. It makes me feel good to have someone that genuinely seems to enjoy me and it's contagious - I still feel like I don't know you. There are people here I have a sense about. Some remain largely a mystery.... most, but, there are a handful I'd like to know more about

I probably am not going to share a lot on the board, just not me. A well crafted PM may get some measure of me.

 

[Tilly]

I think people come here to vent and that's all it is. Venting. An outlet. Those who take everything seriously instead of just someone venting and saying shit they won't say in public to people face to face due to 1) maybe losing their job 2) don't want to hurt someone they care about 3) have no other social life due to ill health, etc 4) insert your own here________________.

I've seen everyone at their worst. Flat out worst. But I have also seen those same people come together to help someone out that is REALLY hurting. Those same helpful-but-otherwise-mean folks are not stupid though, so anyone pretending to be a victim 24/7/365 are just asking for trouble. But if they are REALLY in pain, mentally or physically and NEED the majority here....they get the help or advice or assistance or hugs they need. Period.
Which is why I said 50% or less.

I think people are here for different needs.
If you are really in trouble, you should have REAL LIFE family and friends to go to.
If you are leaning on people here, you have issues in real life

I can't help but notice that you seem to do a lot of questioning here, and that you ask a lot of personal questions. I have, rightly or wrongly, begun to think YOU do that because you don't have people in RL you can talk to in the way you would like, for whatever reason. If true, does that make you a loser or unhappy? I have no idea. But, I don't think you are going to find what you seek on a message board. Just because people are anonymous here, it doesn't necessarily follow that the majority probably, will want to divulge really, really personal stuff, and I don't think that many people are here with the intention of doing that. Also, you seem to like putting people into boxes, categorising them. Here your options are posters are either losers or unhappy. Do you only offer these options because you see yourself and others only within these two categories???

could be! but also observances of others. hiding in humor, I think people are all deep. looking. wanting.
I admit I could be wrong about that and don't remove myself from the equation.
I have people I can talk to in real life.
I don't have people I WANT to talk to in real life, or, not many.
I LIKE sharing in this format. Maybe I feel like it is safe. If someone rejects me or rails on me here, it won't hurt as much as if some one did it to me in real life.

I can "talk"/type here and don't have to see the people I am talking to look away, interrupt, yawn.
That makes me shut down.

Well, I guess I'm with you in many ways. I have plenty of people to talk to, too, but I don't really avail myself. I come from a family where expressing anything deep and meaningful is not really encouraged, to say the least. So it's hard for me to shake off that attitude. I still, personally can't see a message board being the place to get into any really meaningful discussions, but maybe that's because of my issue lol. I guess, from the way you explain your viewpoint, I can see why it could be perfect for some though. We are all f***ed up differently.

 

[saveliberty]

Sometimes imagination is better than knowing....

 

[Bonzi]

Or...

saveliberty:

short answer bus and shocked he can feed himself.

tries to be funny, but just needs help.

entertaining in a nerdy kind of way.

I look him up to see what mischief he is into now.

pretty darn funny and spot on.

I'm just glad when you reply to my post. It makes me feel good to have someone that genuinely seems to enjoy me and it's contagious - I still feel like I don't know you. There are people here I have a sense about. Some remain largely a mystery.... most, but, there are a handful I'd like to know more about

I probably am not going to share a lot on the board, just not me. A well crafted PM may get some measure of me.

I like things to be natural and take their course.
Mostly, I want people to share with me because they want to.
I never want attention out of demand.
Sincerity and genuineness.
Playing and flirting too, where you don't really know if they are serious or not is fun....

 

[Bonzi]

Sometimes imagination is better than knowing....

I don't want to cheat, but I love the chase and the play.
Most men are not interested unless there is at least a CHANCE of an endgame.

that being said, anything is possible.....
some people just give up because it's not worth the effort.

I still hold by my stance about enjoying people to be transparent. I respect those that prefer not or just don't enjoy doing it.....

 

[saveliberty]

I don't want to cheat, but I love the chase and the play.
Most men are not interested unless there is at least a CHANCE of an endgame.

that being said, anything is possible.....
some people just give up because it's not worth the effort.

I still hold by my stance about enjoying people to be transparent. I respect those that prefer not or just don't enjoy doing it.....

I understand, which is why I participate in a gentlemanly way and try to answer what I feel I can, while supporting your openness.

 

[mudwhistle]

My mother always said; "Life is like a box of chocolates........you never know what you're gonna get."

 

[Tilly]

Hmmm...

I think many here are fairly intelligent, so boredom is more the issue.

Not many people show it.... or share it.....

I have been here a long time. After awhile it becomes clear you are not going to reach most people and sway their opinion. Giving short rebuttals with some humor became easier and more entertaining to me. Sorry you feel short changed.

Hmmmm I don't want long extensive debates. I actually hate long posts.
I think people should share of themselves more.
I don't feel short changed.
I think a lot of unwarranted nastiness and bitterness happen, and, people are unwilling to talk about it.
They'd rather hammer you down and hope to chase you away.
I don't understand that.
I just want to understand. I want a valid reason, if not, an admission they have no good reason
Or an admission they just don't WANT to like you - but there is ALWAYS a reason.

Maybe the people here 'share themselves more' in real life and don't believe that's what a message board is for?

There is not doubt. Most are here to discuss politics.
But I don't see a lot of real actual discussion, do you?

True. I came here with high hopes, but now I'm just rolling around in the mud with the rest :-(

 

[saveliberty]

True. I came here with high hopes, but now I'm just rolling around in the mud with the rest :-(

Few wear mud as well as us though.

 

[saveliberty]

I gotta cut down on the mud, you lick so much of that off your fur and you start pooping it.

 

[Bonzi]

My mother always said; "Life is like a box of chocolates........you never know what you're gonna get."

are you sure that wasn't Forrest Gump?

 

[saveliberty]

My mother always said; "Life is like a box of chocolates........you never know what you're gonna get."

Thanks Mr. Hanks.

 

[Bonzi]

My mother always said; "Life is like a box of chocolates........you never know what you're gonna get."

mud ... have I told you lately how awesome you are?

 

[Boss]

Well, MY estimation upon reading the question was around 70~75% but that wasn't an option... not sure if that makes you a loser, Bonzi... I don't think it does... you may just not understand statistics.

In any event, I think more people are losers than winners in general... probably about 60/40. But on a political message board among the "regular" posters, I would put that slightly higher. Losers tend to congregate around other losers in order to feel more adequate.

I'm reminded of a favorite quote:

People who think they know it all are particularly annoying to those of us who do!

No, I put other on there just to cover anything I miss.
I post things normally quickly before I forget or if I have to log off quickly.
People here (want to project an image of self importance and intelligence)
What a perfect venue to be able to expose yourself, warts and all - but people just won't / don't

Yeah, I know... I voted for "Other" but "Other" can mean anything that isn't listed... so, not very accurate from a statistics standpoint.... but like I said, maybe you just don't understand statistics. And another thing is, how are we defining what is a "loser" versus what is a "winner"? Doesn't really say... so I guess this is up to interpretation or opinions?

People here, as well as people EVERYWHERE, want to project an image of self-importance and intelligence. I have NEVER met someone who said... "You know, I'm a real idiot!" Or... "Hey, I am totally unimportant!" It's just like you never meet someone who says, "Don't trust a damn thing I say because I am a habitual liar!" Or, "You can't trust me because I'll cheat as soon as I get a chance!" ...Just doesn't ever happen like that but we all know there are liars and cheats everywhere.

 

[Bonzi]

Well, MY estimation upon reading the question was around 70~75% but that wasn't an option... not sure if that makes you a loser, Bonzi... I don't think it does... you may just not understand statistics.

In any event, I think more people are losers than winners in general... probably about 60/40. But on a political message board among the "regular" posters, I would put that slightly higher. Losers tend to congregate around other losers in order to feel more adequate.

I'm reminded of a favorite quote:

People who think they know it all are particularly annoying to those of us who do!

No, I put other on there just to cover anything I miss.
I post things normally quickly before I forget or if I have to log off quickly.
People here (want to project an image of self importance and intelligence)
What a perfect venue to be able to expose yourself, warts and all - but people just won't / don't

Yeah, I know... I voted for "Other" but "Other" can mean anything that isn't listed... so, not very accurate from a statistics standpoint.... but like I said, maybe you just don't understand statistics. And another thing is, how are we defining what is a "loser" versus what is a "winner"? Doesn't really say... so I guess this is up to interpretation or opinions?

People here, as well as people EVERYWHERE, want to project an image of self-importance and intelligence. I have NEVER met someone who said... "You know, I'm a real idiot!" Or... "Hey, I am totally unimportant!" It's just like you never meet someone who says, "Don't trust a damn thing I say because I am a habitual liar!" Or, "You can't trust me because I'll cheat as soon as I get a chance!" ...Just doesn't ever happen like that but we all know there are liars and cheats everywhere.

Well just coming out with it like that - no - but if you are going to the establish a rapport with someone, and things are going in a direction and you are not sure if the other person is on the same page or whatever, this is great interface where you can just back off or be honest with NO repercussions.

There is a safety in an on line community in that way vs. a "real life" community.

 

[Tilly]

I gotta cut down on the mud, you lick so much of that off your fur and you start pooping it.

Then it gets stuck in your furballs?

 

[saveliberty]

I gotta cut down on the mud, you lick so much of that off your fur and you start pooping it.

Then it gets stuck I your furballs?

No, f'n vet has those...

 

[Boss]

Well, MY estimation upon reading the question was around 70~75% but that wasn't an option... not sure if that makes you a loser, Bonzi... I don't think it does... you may just not understand statistics.

In any event, I think more people are losers than winners in general... probably about 60/40. But on a political message board among the "regular" posters, I would put that slightly higher. Losers tend to congregate around other losers in order to feel more adequate.

I'm reminded of a favorite quote:

People who think they know it all are particularly annoying to those of us who do!

No, I put other on there just to cover anything I miss.
I post things normally quickly before I forget or if I have to log off quickly.
People here (want to project an image of self importance and intelligence)
What a perfect venue to be able to expose yourself, warts and all - but people just won't / don't

Yeah, I know... I voted for "Other" but "Other" can mean anything that isn't listed... so, not very accurate from a statistics standpoint.... but like I said, maybe you just don't understand statistics. And another thing is, how are we defining what is a "loser" versus what is a "winner"? Doesn't really say... so I guess this is up to interpretation or opinions?

People here, as well as people EVERYWHERE, want to project an image of self-importance and intelligence. I have NEVER met someone who said... "You know, I'm a real idiot!" Or... "Hey, I am totally unimportant!" It's just like you never meet someone who says, "Don't trust a damn thing I say because I am a habitual liar!" Or, "You can't trust me because I'll cheat as soon as I get a chance!" ...Just doesn't ever happen like that but we all know there are liars and cheats everywhere.

Well just coming out with it like that - no - but if you are going to the establish a rapport with someone, and things are going in a direction and you are not sure if the other person is on the same page or whatever, this is great interface where you can just back off or be honest with NO repercussions.

There is a safety in an on line community in that way vs. a "real life" community.

I actually think the dishonesty is MORE pronounced on an anonymous message board than real life because you have anonymity and no one to call you out on your lies. Not speaking of you personally, but in general. It's funny how many people here claim to be "financially secure" and "generally happy" in life. They have friends and family, they are well-loved, good looking, sexual juggernauts, romantic, compassionate, benevolent... on and on. You never run across people who admit they are broke, don't know how they'll pay the light bill this month, have little dicks and no sex life, have terrible hygiene habits and body odor or are hated and loathed by their family and have no friends.