The fact is that without achieving those goals there can't be any kind of lasting peace in Ukraine and between Russia and NATO.
If there is discrimination of Russians, Russian-speakers, laymen of Ukrainian Orthodox Church - there can't be peace.
If there is significant Ukrainian Army - Ukraine won't have money and working hands to rebuild the country (and there will be no inner peace) and Russia will see it as a threat and Russians will try to eliminate this treat.
If there is NATO membership or any practical equivalent of it - Russia also see it as a threat and try to prevent or eliminate at early stages.