What do you think is the reason for me not being able to find a boyfriend

[MayorQuimby]

Aside from my looks, which, really aren't terrible. I am not saying I am hot, I am not, but I really don't think I am hideous, either. So I don't think it has to do with my looks.

So, based on the way I act, do you think there is something about me that puts men off? What do you think of me and my behaviors/personality? If you have any advice for me, what will it be? If I were an OK-looking woman in real life, would you date me based on my personality?

Thanks in advance

 

[MarathonMike]

Aside from my looks, which, really aren't terrible. I am not saying I am hot, I am not, but I really don't think I am hideous, either. So I don't think it has to do with my looks.

So, based on the way I act, do you think there is something about me that puts men off? What do you think of me and my behaviors/personality? If you have any advice for me, what will it be? If I were an OK-looking woman in real life, would you date me based on my personality?

Thanks in advance

As an outside observer, I would think young men would love to date a woman who is unpretentious, not "dolled out" and just easy to talk to. There appears to be way too much focus on appearance, especially for women.

 

[MayorQuimby]

As an outside observer, I would think young men would love to date a woman who is unpretentious, not "dolled out" and just easy to talk to. There appears to be way too much focus on appearance, especially for women.

Thank you for the response sir.

Well, do you think I am unpretentious enough? And easy enough to talk to? Sorry sometimes I really have no idea how other people, especially men, view me.

I don't use make up though so no dolling up for me.

 

[HikerGuy83]

Aside from my looks, which, really aren't terrible. I am not saying I am hot, I am not, but I really don't think I am hideous, either. So I don't think it has to do with my looks.

So, based on the way I act, do you think there is something about me that puts men off? What do you think of me and my behaviors/personality? If you have any advice for me, what will it be? If I were an OK-looking woman in real life, would you date me based on my personality?

Thanks in advance

Many young and middle aged men, these days, are mamas boys.

The fact that they won't date you says you have a strong personality and independence and you should take it as a complement.

You seem to be very intellectual (another thing that drives mamas boys away).

 

[progressive hunter]

As an outside observer, I would think young men would love to date a woman who is unpretentious, not "dolled out" and just easy to talk to. There appears to be way too much focus on appearance, especially for women.

I would prefer a pleasant ugly women than a hot mean or mouthy one,,

 

[MayorQuimby]

Many young and middle aged men, these days, are mamas boys.

The fact that they won't date you says you have a strong personality and independence and you should take it as a complement.

You seem to be very intellectual (another thing that drives mamas boys away).

Thank you sir, that is very kind.

I would prefer a pleasant ugly women than a hot mean or mouthy one,,

Hm...do you think I am pleasant? Am I mouthy?

 

[HikerGuy83]

Thank you sir, that is very kind.

Hm...do you think I am pleasant? Am I mouthy?

You are not mouthy. Maybe a little too focused and without context at times.

 

[progressive hunter]

Thank you sir, that is very kind.

Hm...do you think I am pleasant? Am I mouthy?

couldnt say I have read much of your posts,,

even if I did I wouldnt use it as a base line,,

 

[MayorQuimby]

You are not mouthy. Maybe a little too focused and without context at times.

Interesting...could you expound on that please?

couldnt say I have read much of your posts,,

even if I did I wouldnt use it as a base line,,

Hm..

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Have you met Mortimer?

 

[HikerGuy83]

I am not saying I am hot, I am not,

Keep in mind, women are hot in various ways.

Only the most brainless like a b**tchy Victoria Secrets model.

Some men find atheltic women "Hot".

Some men find comedic (in a wise way) women "Hot".

Some men like women who enjoy working with a partner and who are stable.

My assumption is that you don't think you are great looking or have a hot body. Who cares ?

 

[MayorQuimby]

Have you met Mortimer?

Lol.

Nothing against Morty, he's a very cute guy, but I kind of want someone a bit hotter.

 

[HikerGuy83]

Interesting...could you expound on that please?

You post good information and analysis from the few interactions, I've seen.

But your replys to others seem to indicate you are not considering the context of their statements.

Something of a vacuum, if you know what I mean.

 

[sparky]

What is attractive to either gender is always inconsistent , there is so much than mere curb appeal for those that seek beyond the superficial......

~S~

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Lol.

Nothing against Morty, he's a very cute guy, but I kind of want someone a bit hotter.

You have much in common.

 

[Blaster]

Have you met Mortimer?

Don't get her involved with that dork.

 

[MarathonMike]

Thank you for the response sir.

Well, do you think I am unpretentious enough? And easy enough to talk to? Sorry sometimes I really have no idea how other people, especially men, view me.

I don't use make up though so no dolling up for me.

I don't know anything about you, but you seem very down to Earth and not a Narcissist which is a big plus. Are you athletic or do you like the outdoors? I met my wife playing co-ed volleyball.

 

[HikerGuy83]

As to the title of your thread.

You want a boyfriend.

You can't find one.

Maybe you should explore how you are going about trying to find one.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Don't get her involved with that dork.

They both say the same things. Have the same complaints.

 

[MayorQuimby]

My assumption is that you don't think you are great looking or have a hot body. Who cares ?

I know that men aren't as solely focused on physicality as we have painted them as, so, if that's the case, what do they look for then? I know that personality is always important. I just want to know how to attract men's attention without having stunningly good looks.

What is attractive to either gender is always inconsistent , there is so much than mere curb appeal for those that seek beyond the superficial......

~S~

Interesting sir.

So, speaking about yourself, aside from looks, what do you look for in a woman?

You have much in common.

You mean how we are both unbelievably adorable? Guilty of that, for sure.

Don't get her involved with that dork.

lol