In general ekrem, the "secret" to getting to know or understand a "woman" (or a "man")
is NOT to seek some generalization by gender that you think will explain it.
If you treat people as individuals you can ask the individual reason why they do or respond to you as they do. I would start with that. Just ask one-on-one, based on who they are!
Excellent advice in general. People are indeed individuals. However, whether it's having a better understanding of the opposite gender, a different religion or any other foreign culture, it is good to have a basic understanding of the fundamentals thoughts, motivations and other characterizations which help define it. We're all human, but we do have differences. The differences between the genders can be generalized while, as you mentioned, the exact differences as individuals should be experienced one on one.