In general ekrem, the "secret" to getting to know or understand a "woman" (or a "man")
is NOT to seek some generalization by gender that you think will explain it.
If you treat people as individuals you can ask the individual reason why they do or respond to you as they do. I would start with that. Just ask one-on-one, based on who they are!
Then, after you get to know someone, sure, there may be areas where patterns of behavior or thought fall into more general patterns by gender. Of course that will happen.
But it should not be the deciding factor to look for.
You will have MUCH better luck understanding people in general by
getting to know them as individuals, what patterns they get from their mothers fathers or family culture, what reactions come from their childhood or past relations.
These patterns are unique to each person! So get to know THAT!
Ironically you will learn about yourself in comparison when you find
areas that you have different conditioning and responses than someone else.
You are just as unique because of who YOU are, before your gender comes into play.
If you date a woman, and you go dining and she tells you, that she doesn't want you to pay her bill in the restaurant, does that mean she really doesn't want me to pay for her or is this just a woman's psychological testing thing?
And what does it mean, when a man is invited for a dinner-date to a woman's house and she asked you on telephone what she shall cook for you. You told her, that you'd like a hot (chilly) prepared meal.
On the dinner-date she has cooked exactly the meal according to your wishes, but the meal does not taste hot but sugary more then anything else.
Does that mean, that she can't cook or what does that mean?
Now that we have a religious experience thread started by Mr- Sauerkraut, I thought, that we also could have an "experience with women" thread.
You do not really have to respond to the 2 points in this first post, but can write whatever you want about your experience with women...
1. I would think she does not want you to pay her bill, for whatever reason.
Maybe she doesn't want to oblige you but keep even control of the relationship?
2. Maybe she still cooks the way she thinks you would like it to taste.
If you like it hotter or less sweet, if you can say it in a way that doesn't insult her
cooking for you, you can direct her toward that idea. But chances are that would
come across as ungrateful, so it's better not to say anything. If you are married
and you can talk openly about how you prefer things, that's different.
With friends, better to accept graciously, let things slide that aren't important,
and not read too much into it.