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To The Women Who Choose Not To Have Kids | Thought Catalog
I have many 'child-free-by-choice' friends, and thank you is about the last thing they generally hear.
I only had the one because, to quote Christopher Reeve's ex, "One is an honest mistake. Anything more than that is tacky." However, she went on to be tacky. An almost two-day labor virtually guaranteed I wouldn't be going through that again any time soon, wuss that I am.
I second the "thanks."
But seriously: thank you. Thank you for recognizing that childrearing isnt for you and being true to who you are. It doesnt mean you hate kids. It just means that raising one is not part of your path in life.
Thank you for not succumbing to the societal pressures. Ive known far too many parents who had kids because thats what was expected of them. Working in childcare, you see more of this type than you wish to see. The resentment is almost palpable. They love their children at least, they have no choice but to love their children but every single movement seems to scream, I wasnt meant for this. Ive known too many people who grew up with at least one parent who harbored that resentment, who let that resentment dictate how they parented. Ive seen how that influenced the way these former children are now as adults, or even as parents themselves.
Thank you for not trying to compromise who you are in an effort to keep a partner around. Thank you for being honest and open and refusing to apologize for who you are. Everyone has different values. Everyone wants something different in life. It takes a lot of guts and confidence to say, This is what I want in life. Its not the orthodox way, but its my way.
I have many 'child-free-by-choice' friends, and thank you is about the last thing they generally hear.
I only had the one because, to quote Christopher Reeve's ex, "One is an honest mistake. Anything more than that is tacky." However, she went on to be tacky. An almost two-day labor virtually guaranteed I wouldn't be going through that again any time soon, wuss that I am.
I second the "thanks."