This is patently false. My wife’s family came from Communism and would laugh in your face.
My wife was born in the USSR and she would disagree with your wife.
They were(retired) both college educated professionals and would tell you first hand that life is infinitely better in a Capitalist society like the US than their former country.
She would disagree that it is "infinitely better", especially here in the US. Maybe in certain parts of Western Europe, but those are mixed economies, essentially socialistic, compared to America. The USSR was in a state of war throughout its history with very powerful capitalist countries, so in view of that, and what they accomplished, they had a pretty impressive track record, becoming the second largest economy in the world. People didn't have it as bad as the Cold War propaganda claims they did.
They do admit that US inner cities, NYC specifically, are dumps, even relative to where they came, however, they were smart enough to leave that area and take advantage of the number of opportunities elsewhere. They live far better now than they did in their former country, despite not being native English speakers and not being able to take full advantage of the formal education they received in their home country.
My grandparents who migrated to Miami, Florida from Cuba, also lived better than Cubans on the Island, but Cuba is an Island, in the shadow of a capitalist empire, under an economic embargo. The communists have always been under the heel of American economic and military "wrath", hence that has to be factored into the equation when comparing both economic systems. Marketless, non-profit, centrally planned economies, are doomed from the very start, with an enemy like the United States. If you're a market socialist, with a bit of central planning, you'll probably be OK, provided you're not too close to the US border.
They were top earners in their former country and yet their standard of living was nowhere near what it is in the US.
That wasn't true for everybody, there were members of the scientific community, academia, and entertainers..etc, who enjoyed a high standard of living. If the USSR wouldn't have been taken over by a bunch of anti-Stalinist revionists, their "5th column", the USSR today in 2024, with all of the technology available, would provide its citizens with an extremely high standard of living, surpassing that of the United States.
In short, you don’t have a clue...
I do, and you apparently don't have a clue about my background and what I know. Your "my wife from communist Russia" game, doesn't work with me, because I have a bunch of people in my family born in communism, not just in Cuba but in different Eastern Europe as well. You chose the wrong debate opponent to play that little game.
...what you are talking about. You have bought into a false narrative that is out of touch with reality.
You're the one who's ignorant of history and unable to think rationally on this topic, not me.