It is about equal protection under the law, which means that in one same gender couple is denied a marriage license all same gender couples must be denied a marriage license, that would be equal. States laws say that two people of the gender cannot marry, they don't specifically state that homosexuals can't marry, so technically a gay man can marry a lesbian, this refutes the lie that homosexuals are denied the right to marry, they can marry, they just cannot marry a person of the same gender.
State laws forbid fathers from marrying daughters, mothers from marrying son, siblings from marrying siblings, bigamy and polygamy, how are gays any better than those people? If they argument that the 14th amendment doesn't apply to the above people how can they argue it applies to their argument?
Dear Flaylo:
1. the fact that government is involved in marriage at all, already oversteps the bounds of the state involved in spiritual matters of the church
2. either all people should agree on the policy if the state is involved at all (and this can arguably be done legally state by state and not one federal policy for all) or they should get govt out of all marriages, only regulate the civil contracts that deal with property estates custody ie legal matters and leave the spiritual marriage part to individual choice of religious institution and policy
3. the reason this has become an issue, and not polygamy or interfamily bans, is that people no longer consent to marriage excluding gay couples.
nobody is challenging the other issues (except some polygamists have argued for religious freedom, but were defeated; and I do believe some couples prosecuted for underage sexual relations even though the partners later married DO have a valid argument that the age laws discriminate against those who DON'T have criminal
intent of abusing children but who do indeed have a valid spiritual relationship as husband and wife)
If you really want to dig up inconsistencies in church-state separation arguments, just look at the death penalty and murder laws. Those are religious also, but as long as people consent to the state having such authority, people don't question or challenge those laws! They only cry for separation when it goes against their consent in a matter.
I even confronted fellow anti-death penalty activists about arguing for separation of church and state, and they won't do it. They want to argue to ban the choice altogether, but won't argue to separate the funding or exercise of such policies. I only found one person who got why I would argue for that and agreed it was valid in principle.
People are NOT consistent when it comes to defending Constitutional principles.
Just look at the people who want or don't want regulation on guns or on abortion.
The principles they argue for are similar, but they both condemn the OTHER group while demanding the same on THEIR OWN pet issue!!!
Both accuse the other of shirking responsibility for the deadly consequences of unchecked freedom,
but then they get defensive when it comes to government infringing on their sacred ground where they draw the line.
They focus on arguing for what they consent to and against where they dissent,
and that is what motivates the politics going on. Yes, it is biased and the arguments
fall apart when you apply them to other situations the person/group is not interested in.
These are human beings you are dealing with. They are going to argue for their own personal interests and biases, and leave others to argue for the other views or interests.
You can and will find hypocrisy on all sides, pots and kettles calling the other black.