Have you read Deborah Feldman's 2012 memoir, Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots?
She had to endure enforced "customs" that included rules on what she could wear, to whom she could speak, and what books she was permitted to read. There is also the New York based group Footsteps. Its Mission Statement:
Footsteps supports, affirms, and advocates for individuals and families who have left, or are contemplating leaving, ultra-Orthodox Jewish communities in their quest to lead self-determined lives, and creates conditions that further their agency and independence.
Rather like the late Mr Kirk's view of women then? Submit to your husband, do not have a career, and just breed.
In African societies some anthropologists have suggested that the practice predates the introduction of any of the major religions and was originally adopted as a form of tribal identification as well as a way to ensure chastity. It is practised in some Islamic societies but not all.
However, as with all patriarchal religions, including Judaism and Christianity, there is a core belief in controlling women.