The Male View of Perfect Marriage

RodISHI

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Some people never find true love or their soul mate. In that they seek a lot of things to compensate for that missing portion. Mr. Rod and I are blessed with 39 years of each of us having their best friend close by.
 

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It is often noted that the President's history in the institution of marriage is not pristine. Two divorces, three marriages, and a few notorious incidents of adultery. Aren't we all horrified?

But seriously, adultery aside, isn't he living the dream from a male perspective? He marries a beautiful woman, lets her share his bed for some years, then when he gets tired of her he goes out and finds another beautiful woman - a younger one, of course - and starts over again. Then when he gets tired of the second wife,...

Now he's in his 70's, still married to a beautiful woman - a woman who is from all appearances desirable in every way, and when you look at his history, each of the women and all of the kids seem quite happy with him as a husband, ex-husband, and father. And biology being what it is, there won't be another beautiful wife; this one will be with him to the end, and she will still be spectacular when The Donald finally kicks it.

I notice that very few men make snide remarks about his marriage history. It's the women who clutch their pearls and tell the children NOT to pay attention to that vile, horrid, selfish man, who happens to be POTUS.

From a male standpoint, isn't this the ideal life? Serial monogamy! Wouldn't the majority of men in our culture practice the same lifestyle if they had the resources to do it?
Except it is not serial monogamy if he is not monogamous. Yes, there have been some notorious incidents of adultery. And that includes long running affairs. And surely you don't think every woman he had when he was married made the news?

No, I don't think it is the ideal life. If you don't take your vows more seriously than that, I think you lack fundamental morality. And it isn't the prospect of getting caught that should keep him on the straight and narrow. It is simply integrity.

Also, I do practice polyamory. The difference is, I let my partner know what is going on. And she lets me know what is going on. It is called honesty.
He's behaving like most, if not all, rich men. The standards have always been different for the rich. Is it right? No. Would I behave that way? I hope not, but I was raised very poor and my standards are different.
I like to think I would still have my morals and my integrity.
 

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St Trumpy has somehow managed to turn adultery into a sacrament to His faithful followers.
:lol: Even going to lengths to unironically make up new phrases: serial monogamy

Married Bachelor. lol
 
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I have been faithfully married since August, 1973; do the math.

My point is that serial monogamy is what most men would embrace if it were possible to do so. The pearl clutching about Trump's adulterous affairs is just silly. The same lifestyle that people envy in Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt, or other Hollywood pretty boys becomes abhorrent because they don't like Donald Trump.

There is nothing misogynistic about loving more than one woman in a lifetime, sincerely. And loving #2 is not disproof of loving #1, or #3 vs #2. Indeed lifetime monogamy is essentially and practically passe, whether anyone wants to acknowledge it or not.

This does not mean that lifetime monogamy is not the ideal, but "we" have come, as a society, to understand that many people are not particularly astute at choosing a mate in early adulthood, particularly in our hedonistic culture.
 

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I have been faithfully married since August, 1973; do the math.

My point is that serial monogamy is what most men would embrace if it were possible to do so. The pearl clutching about Trump's adulterous affairs is just silly. The same lifestyle that people envy in Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt, or other Hollywood pretty boys becomes abhorrent because they don't like Donald Trump.

There is nothing misogynistic about loving more than one woman in a lifetime, sincerely. And loving #2 is not disproof of loving #1, or #3 vs #2. Indeed lifetime monogamy is essentially and practically passe, whether anyone wants to acknowledge it or not.

This does not mean that lifetime monogamy is not the ideal, but "we" have come, as a society, to understand that many people are not particularly astute at choosing a mate in early adulthood, particularly in our hedonistic culture.
You just gave a decent description of why polyamory is an option.

But taking a sacred vow should mean something. If it doesn't, why would any other vow or promise mean anything?
 

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It is often noted that the President's history in the institution of marriage is not pristine. Two divorces, three marriages, and a few notorious incidents of adultery. Aren't we all horrified?

But seriously, adultery aside, isn't he living the dream from a male perspective? He marries a beautiful woman, lets her share his bed for some years, then when he gets tired of her he goes out and finds another beautiful woman - a younger one, of course - and starts over again. Then when he gets tired of the second wife,...

Now he's in his 70's, still married to a beautiful woman - a woman who is from all appearances desirable in every way, and when you look at his history, each of the women and all of the kids seem quite happy with him as a husband, ex-husband, and father. And biology being what it is, there won't be another beautiful wife; this one will be with him to the end, and she will still be spectacular when The Donald finally kicks it.

I notice that very few men make snide remarks about his marriage history. It's the women who clutch their pearls and tell the children NOT to pay attention to that vile, horrid, selfish man, who happens to be POTUS.

From a male standpoint, isn't this the ideal life? Serial monogamy! Wouldn't the majority of men in our culture practice the same lifestyle if they had the resources to do it?
No, they would not.

Guaranteed. Trump's marriage may or may not be good at all.

Simply marrying someone beautiful, does not result in marital bliss.

Now I have known some men that married 11 out 10s before. Have one in my family. But she was also a fantastic person in general. Loving, caring, moral, decent so on.

I have also known people who married good looking women, that were miserable horror shows inside. I've met girls like that. Absolutely could not stand to be around them, and I wasn't even in a relationship with them. Horrible women.

I knew this one guy, who married a gorgeous woman, and she would publicly humiliate him. Wouldn't have touched that girl with a 50 foot poll, if I was paid to do it.

So, no.... having something real and long term, is worth more than trading in for younger models.

I actually think generally well of Melania, but it would be better to have a long term relationship with someone who really cares about you, than flipping around from one to the next.

I hope the best for the relationship between him and her, but obviously there are reasons to doubt there is much to it.
 

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