As far as gay adoption is concerned, even though there are some good hearted gay couples who are willing to adopt older kids who would otherwise remain orphans or in foster homes --- I think overall the idea is very bad for society and very bad for almost all children involved. This godless nation has abandoned the meaning of a father and a mother and how a child needs to be raised and nurtured. It is really unbelievable how insane this “affluent” nation has become.
I think leaving children in foster care with no parents because their own mother and father have chosen to abandon them- or abuse them- because you have a problem with homosexuals being parents is cruel to those kids.
100,000 children available for adoption at any time.
33,000 or so of them will wait 3 or more years to be adopted.
Tens of thousands of kids will age out of the system each year- abandoned by the state with no family to support them financially or emotionally at 18 years old.
This is what you prefer rather than allowing a gay woman or a gay couple offer to bring a child into their home and be part of their family.
It is far better for a child to live with caring and loving foster parents - foster mother and foster father - than two moms or two dads of undetermined gender.
My sister-in-law and her husband have been foster parents of a child who is now in his twenties from the time he was three. This child needs to be spoon fed, carried, bathed, dressed and most of all, loved. They have done a super job with the utmost and unselfish love.
Along the way they taught their own child by birth to love and care for his foster sibling.
Thru the years they considered adopting, but they came to realize that the adoption papers are no more meaningful for them than a marriage certificate is to a couple who live together, straight or gay.
Well kudo's to your sister-in-law and husband. And I sincerely mean that. I have a sibling and a grandparent who were both foster parents- and I recognize that foster parents play a vital role for the children abandoned by their own parents.
What I don't get is why you assume that all hetero foster parents are caring and loving- and that gay foster parents are not.
Tell me why your wonderful sister in law and husband are 'good foster parents' for doing what they have done- but these men are not?
This all makes the Hastings household presided over by David Upjohn and Andrew Daniels somewhat unusual. David, 59, and Andrew, 47, are foster carers and have also been adoptive parents.
They have been together in a relationship for 24 years, and before they became full-time carers, Andrew taught at a school for children with special needs, and David worked in adult social care.
They first fostered 18 years ago. Then, the idea of two men adopting a child was uncommon, which is partly what led them to foster when, due to Andrew's experience with children with special needs, they were asked if they would look after a boy with severe disabilities. "He wasn't expected to live to his first birthday, although he eventually lived until he was seven and a half," says Andrew.
The death of a child will always be traumatic, but Andrew and David felt compelled to continue.
"He'd taught us so much and we'd developed so many skills … we thought, we can't just leave it. We've got to do something with this knowledge. That's when we decided to carry on fostering children with profound disabilities and terminal conditions."
The couple contacted Credo Care, an organisation that specialises in disability foster placements. Shortly after, Armand arrived.
"He arrived in March, 10 years ago," explains David. Born in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, six-year-old Armand had lived in hospital for most of his short life. A wheelchair user, he has severe learning disabilities, a tracheotomy and is fed through a Peg [percutaneous endoscopic gastrostomy].
"He came to us when he was six and was the first one to arrive. Four months later, we had an emergency phone call, asking us if we'd take a boy from Derby. Luke arrived that afternoon. He was 12 and had
Duchenne muscular dystrophy. In those days he could shuffle around, but now, he's totally … well, the disease has got hold of his body. He's 22 now. He's a great lad, he really is. He's brilliant."
A couple of months after Luke joined the household, the couple were asked to take Steven, who was five
