This has to do with people like you thinking using the State to force people how to act over a matter of fucking pronouns.
The student is a victim here. Sorry, but treating supposed gender dysphoria at such an early age it tantamount to child abuse.
If the kid thinks they are a puppy should we let them shit in the playground?
Your boss tells you how you are to address a student
You intentionally do otherwise
You get fired for it
That is the way things work
The boss tells you to eat pork in the cafeteria and you are jewish.
You refuse.
You are fired.
Yes, and exaggeration, but its an example of your line of logic.
In the case of a government job, employees have more rights than in the private sector.