Question for Men: Feminine Women

[Unkotare]

Is it important to you for your woman to be "feminine"?

Meaning, having polished nails, make up just right, grossed out by crude jokes, etc.
Is it a turn off for a girl to like sports, tell crude jokes, burp and fart? Is that a "deal breaker"?

Well, you put it a bit extreme. I like my partner to be a girl, know she's a girl and be comfortable with that. That doesn't mean meek or uneduated at all, just female. Nothing wrong with women who aren't that way, but you did ask about my partner and that's what I'm comfortable with

So.... You're into Bruce Jenner...

 

[kaz]

Is it important to you for your woman to be "feminine"?

Meaning, having polished nails, make up just right, grossed out by crude jokes, etc.
Is it a turn off for a girl to like sports, tell crude jokes, burp and fart? Is that a "deal breaker"?

Well, you put it a bit extreme. I like my partner to be a girl, know she's a girl and be comfortable with that. That doesn't mean meek or uneduated at all, just female. Nothing wrong with women who aren't that way, but you did ask about my partner and that's what I'm comfortable with

So.... You're into Bruce Jenner...

OK?

 

[Unkotare]

Is it important to you for your woman to be "feminine"?

Meaning, having polished nails, make up just right, grossed out by crude jokes, etc.
Is it a turn off for a girl to like sports, tell crude jokes, burp and fart? Is that a "deal breaker"?

Well, you put it a bit extreme. I like my partner to be a girl, know she's a girl and be comfortable with that. That doesn't mean meek or uneduated at all, just female. Nothing wrong with women who aren't that way, but you did ask about my partner and that's what I'm comfortable with

So.... You're into Bruce Jenner...

OK?

Hey, whatever makes your Wheaties wet....

 

[Bonzi]

Is it important to you for your woman to be "feminine"?

Meaning, having polished nails, make up just right, grossed out by crude jokes, etc.
Is it a turn off for a girl to like sports, tell crude jokes, burp and fart? Is that a "deal breaker"?

Well, you put it a bit extreme. I like my partner to be a girl, know she's a girl and be comfortable with that. That doesn't mean meek or uneduated at all, just female. Nothing wrong with women who aren't that way, but you did ask about my partner and that's what I'm comfortable with

So.... You're into Bruce Jenner...

Bruce Jenner? I think he's been erased from existence, no?

 

[danielpalos]

i love watching feminine chics, just get used on porn sites. i have been getting a lot of practice.

 

[Bonzi]

i love watching feminine chics, just get used on porn sites. i have been getting a lot of practice.

You like watching them get used....? I think that is why most men like porn.
Or, maybe they are just around a woman that doesn't enjoy sex, and, they like to watch women that enjoy it.
You're not alone.... but, if you never saw or watched porn, you would be 100% satisfied with "normal" sex.

 

[kaz]

Is it important to you for your woman to be "feminine"?

Meaning, having polished nails, make up just right, grossed out by crude jokes, etc.
Is it a turn off for a girl to like sports, tell crude jokes, burp and fart? Is that a "deal breaker"?

Well, you put it a bit extreme. I like my partner to be a girl, know she's a girl and be comfortable with that. That doesn't mean meek or uneduated at all, just female. Nothing wrong with women who aren't that way, but you did ask about my partner and that's what I'm comfortable with

So.... You're into Bruce Jenner...

Bruce Jenner? I think he's been erased from existence, no?

He's mad at me for other discussions and he's not very clever, so it's just a lame insult

 

[Toro]

My wife is a nice blend of feminine and practical. She studied design in college and her father could fix anything, so she knows more about houses and cars than I do! But she likes soap operas and she's also scared of bugs, so I can be the masculine man who rescues her from what scares her without actually being threatened by anything of consequence. She's also more frugal than I am, so I don't worry too much about her sending us to the poorhouse.

 

[Bonzi]

My wife is a nice blend of feminine and practical. She studied design in college and her father could fix anything, so she knows more about houses and cars than I do! But she likes soap operas and she's also scared of bugs, so I can be the masculine man who rescues her from what scares her without actually being threatened by anything of consequence. She's also more frugal than I am, so I don't worry too much about her sending us to the poorhouse.

That's very awesome! Sounds like a good fit

 

[Unkotare]

.... but, if you never saw or watched porn, you would be 100% satisfied with "normal" sex.

It seems more than likely that he never has and never will have sex in the real world.

 

[TrinityPower]

My wife is a nice blend of feminine and practical. She studied design in college and her father could fix anything, so she knows more about houses and cars than I do! But she likes soap operas and she's also scared of bugs, so I can be the masculine man who rescues her from what scares her without actually being threatened by anything of consequence. She's also more frugal than I am, so I don't worry too much about her sending us to the poorhouse.

Here is a question I am curious about since you mentioned it...do men find women attractive and feminine by their traits? The one in particular I am interested in is frugal. Is a woman who does not shop and buy clothes and cosmetics an attraction? Is a woman who saves as much as she can and uses it rather to stock up on food sale items someone who a man would seek? How about a woman who doesn't ask to be taken out? How would men rate that on a feminine scale? Women are welcome to give their vote as well

 

[RKMBrown]

My wife is a nice blend of feminine and practical. She studied design in college and her father could fix anything, so she knows more about houses and cars than I do! But she likes soap operas and she's also scared of bugs, so I can be the masculine man who rescues her from what scares her without actually being threatened by anything of consequence. She's also more frugal than I am, so I don't worry too much about her sending us to the poorhouse.

Here is a question I am curious about since you mentioned it...do men find women attractive and feminine by their traits? The one in particular I am interested in is frugal. Is a woman who does not shop and buy clothes and cosmetics an attraction? Is a woman who saves as much as she can and uses it rather to stock up on food sale items someone who a man would seek? How about a woman who doesn't ask to be taken out? How would men rate that on a feminine scale? Women are welcome to give their vote as well

Semi-frugal is good... but not OCD obsessive about it.

On the date thing.. it depends. First date? I don't mind a nudge, I like it if it's subtle. Sometimes the guy is just plain clueless. I had dozens of girls come up to me years later after school telling me I should have asked them out... But you can't give him too much of a big head or he won't feel the need to chase. If a guy is not chasing, he's thinking maybe it's not his idea. Think of it like a car sale, do you like to be chased down by the salesman?

The big turn on was the eyes... the yes I'd say yes if you ask me out eyes, just enough to encourage me to come ask you out. If the eye contact is too short he'll think you are not interested. Too long and he'll think he forgot to zip up his pants.

 

[TrinityPower]

My wife is a nice blend of feminine and practical. She studied design in college and her father could fix anything, so she knows more about houses and cars than I do! But she likes soap operas and she's also scared of bugs, so I can be the masculine man who rescues her from what scares her without actually being threatened by anything of consequence. She's also more frugal than I am, so I don't worry too much about her sending us to the poorhouse.

Here is a question I am curious about since you mentioned it...do men find women attractive and feminine by their traits? The one in particular I am interested in is frugal. Is a woman who does not shop and buy clothes and cosmetics an attraction? Is a woman who saves as much as she can and uses it rather to stock up on food sale items someone who a man would seek? How about a woman who doesn't ask to be taken out? How would men rate that on a feminine scale? Women are welcome to give their vote as well

Semi-frugal is good... but not OCD obsessive about it.

On the date thing.. it depends. First date? I don't mind a nudge, I like it if it's subtle. Sometimes the guy is just plain clueless. I had dozens of girls come up to me years later after school telling me I should have asked them out... But you can't give him too much of a big head or he won't feel the need to chase. If a guy is not chasing, he's thinking maybe it's not his idea. Think of it like a car sale, do you like to be chased down by the salesman?

The big turn on was the eyes... the yes I'd say yes if you ask me out eyes, just enough to encourage me to come ask you out. If the eye contact is too short he'll think you are not interested. Too long and he'll think he forgot to zip up his pants.

I wasn't very clear in my question. In a long term relationship or marriage is a woman who doesn't shop for herself nor ask to go out as a couple a desirable trait? Is a woman who has dinner ready when the husband comes home every day something sought after in a mate or is that considered old fashioned and no longer desired?

 

[RKMBrown]

My wife is a nice blend of feminine and practical. She studied design in college and her father could fix anything, so she knows more about houses and cars than I do! But she likes soap operas and she's also scared of bugs, so I can be the masculine man who rescues her from what scares her without actually being threatened by anything of consequence. She's also more frugal than I am, so I don't worry too much about her sending us to the poorhouse.

Here is a question I am curious about since you mentioned it...do men find women attractive and feminine by their traits? The one in particular I am interested in is frugal. Is a woman who does not shop and buy clothes and cosmetics an attraction? Is a woman who saves as much as she can and uses it rather to stock up on food sale items someone who a man would seek? How about a woman who doesn't ask to be taken out? How would men rate that on a feminine scale? Women are welcome to give their vote as well

Semi-frugal is good... but not OCD obsessive about it.

On the date thing.. it depends. First date? I don't mind a nudge, I like it if it's subtle. Sometimes the guy is just plain clueless. I had dozens of girls come up to me years later after school telling me I should have asked them out... But you can't give him too much of a big head or he won't feel the need to chase. If a guy is not chasing, he's thinking maybe it's not his idea. Think of it like a car sale, do you like to be chased down by the salesman?

The big turn on was the eyes... the yes I'd say yes if you ask me out eyes, just enough to encourage me to come ask you out. If the eye contact is too short he'll think you are not interested. Too long and he'll think he forgot to zip up his pants.

I wasn't very clear in my question. In a long term relationship or marriage is a woman who doesn't shop for herself nor ask to go out as a couple a desirable trait? Is a woman who has dinner ready when the husband comes home every day something sought after in a mate or is that considered old fashioned and no longer desired?

No. If they don't shop their cloths become rags. Too much shopping is bad, but just enough depending on budget is a good thing. Nothing wrong with wanting to look nice.

As for wanting to go out if you don't tell him you want to go out he can't read your mind. Just don't harp about it... and if you are asking have options and listen to what he might want to do instead, sharing places to go is also a good thing. But after marriage the chase is not there the dates are to have fun enjoy being with each other. I guess it depends. If he doesn't want to do something... why not? Letting him know you want to go out with him is a great thing to do. Setting up some stuff is good, but need to make sure he's not worried about some work thing going on or there was a huge game on

If she's working the meal thing is problematic based on times that the two come home. If she's not working the meal thing is a good family activity that is still very desirable. Unless of course he wants to cook. If both work and she's doing the cooking ... he should take that over on the weekends and help with dishes. The work needs to be shared somewhat or there will be a lack of respect and / or companionship as a result.

 

[Toro]

My wife is a nice blend of feminine and practical. She studied design in college and her father could fix anything, so she knows more about houses and cars than I do! But she likes soap operas and she's also scared of bugs, so I can be the masculine man who rescues her from what scares her without actually being threatened by anything of consequence. She's also more frugal than I am, so I don't worry too much about her sending us to the poorhouse.

Here is a question I am curious about since you mentioned it...do men find women attractive and feminine by their traits? The one in particular I am interested in is frugal. Is a woman who does not shop and buy clothes and cosmetics an attraction? Is a woman who saves as much as she can and uses it rather to stock up on food sale items someone who a man would seek? How about a woman who doesn't ask to be taken out? How would men rate that on a feminine scale? Women are welcome to give their vote as well

My wife is a little older than me. When we started dating, she showed me her retirement account and told me that one of her two monthly pay checks went straight into her retirement account. That's when I first thought, "Hey, I could marry this woman."

I want to be surrounded by solid people making smart choices, not flakes making airhead decisions.

Sometimes, I think she's too frugal and encourage her to spend more on herself. She's a beautiful woman who does buy clothes and cosmetics for herself but she's always looking for a bargain.

I'm lucky to have her.

 

[TrinityPower]

The reason I ask is because within me is this 50s style housewife who wants to have a clean home, make dinner, take care of everything except mow the lawn and I was curious if that is still attractive and sought in relationships today? Maybe I am just old fashioned...old being the key word

 

[Toro]

The reason I ask is because within me is this 50s style housewife who wants to have a clean home, make dinner, take care of everything except mow the lawn and I was curious if that is still attractive and sought in relationships today? Maybe I am just old fashioned...old being the key word

Yes.

My wife was a professional. But when she had our son, she decided to stay at home to be a mom. I would have supported whatever she decided but I was happy she stayed at home.

 

[RKMBrown]

The reason I ask is because within me is this 50s style housewife who wants to have a clean home, make dinner, take care of everything except mow the lawn and I was curious if that is still attractive and sought in relationships today? Maybe I am just old fashioned...old being the key word

No that's still very attractive... My wife was a homemaker for 16 years. She went to work after the kids were all in college just to do something different... I hope she decides to go back to being a homemaker and maybe part time work or goes to school or something.

But it does require you finding a man with an income that can support a single income family.

 

[TrinityPower]

I stayed home after the birth of my daughter (mostly due to a crippling disease) as well. Unfortunately, because I no longer made any financial contribution my former spouse did not treat me well and there was not an appreciation for the "homework" so much so that it was bluntly stated that none of it mattered because I brought in no money but I still carry with me that ideal of keeping a house and role of wife and mother from the 50s.

I do not ask to be taken out by the husband I have now nor did I ask the spouse I had before. My dating experience compared to most is extremely limited as well as the normal amount women spend on themselves for clothes, hair cuts, spa treatments etc. For a man is there a respect measurement given or taken away for a woman if she does or doesn't invest in herself but rather denies herself and uses it for her husband and family?

 

[RKMBrown]

I stayed home after the birth of my daughter (mostly due to a crippling disease) as well. Unfortunately, because I no longer made any financial contribution my former spouse did not treat me well and there was not an appreciation for the "homework" so much so that it was bluntly stated that none of it mattered because I brought in no money but I still carry with me that ideal of keeping a house and role of wife and mother from the 50s.

I do not ask to be taken out by the husband I have now nor did I ask the spouse I had before. My dating experience compared to most is extremely limited as well as the normal amount women spend on themselves for clothes, hair cuts, spa treatments etc. For a man is there a respect measurement given or taken away for a woman if she does or doesn't invest in herself but rather denies herself and uses it for her husband and family?

You are frugal for a reason... so was my wife, not for the same reason though. I give my wife tons of respect for her frugality. I would rather be with a princess that does not demand the accoutrements of a royal princess, but instead is one from within. When I picked out my wife I had many choices, I picked the right one. I've never felt the need or desire to question her spending.

As for dates there's nothing more frustrating than being a guy that does not know what his wife wants and what would make her happy, what she'd like to do. If you want to try dancing ... just tell him. The key though is not to harp about it... ask him if he'd be ok with that and if not.. be ready with other stuff that he might like to go out and do. It's easy to get in a rut of not going out. FYI just cause you're not asking him to go out does not mean he can't tell you are not happy about not going out... communication is tough... best way to communicate is to talk. Just be encouraging vs accusatory and it will work out great.

My wife gives me a smile and a kiss she can have anything she wants