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The key question with regards to Utah isn't about adults. It's about children. Pay close attention because you keep losing that key concept:
There is no denying the strong bonds of the natural biological child of two parents. A woman has the birth and pregnancy to foster this bond. A man sees his own eyes, chin, nose or hair on his infant and warmly regards him as "a chip off the old block". These two people, should they be in love, are the best two people in the world to raise that child. They see themselves in their child and part of that child; as one. That's why vows implore participants in marriage to stick by each other through thick and thin, to not forsake each other for another. It isn't for their benefit. It is for their children's benefit that this is so. Marriage is about children. It is society's insurance that children [future adult members] receive the best possible upbringing as a rule.
A society has a deeply vested interest in preserving this situation. Gays don't fit the bill. It is physically impossible. Wherease at least with barren hetero couples their pledge to each other doesn't conflict legally with the acme marital situation. The rule: one man and one woman. Gays have not qualified.....especially with their defended reverence for a man who raped, habitually, teen orphaned boys on drugs.
Marriage is an incentive with perks. It's a reward for certain behaviors. Those behaviors are to be a man and a woman, coming together in love, in a bonded pair to reproduce and produce children who rely on their relationship to grow into fully fledged, well rounded and productive citizens. No marriage is perfect but the icon is preserved to encourage people to strive for that perfection, that gold ring, so that in so striving a child's chances of health and wellbeing are enhanced. Bestowing "marriage" upon two people of the same gender who regard sex as assisted masturbation and who revere and defend a child sex predator are not qualifying for Utah's standards for its children.
I know what the issue that is being made out here. But it simply isn't an issue.
You talk about the bond of two parents. Not an issue. The kids you're talking about aren't the kids who have two loving parents. They're the kids who need adopting, either the kids whose parents aren't together, or the kids who parents are abusive, or whatever the situation may be, it's not NORMAL in the sense you're making out.
You want these kids to go to a "normal" home, but are there enough? No is the simple answer in many cases.
You want to preserve this situation as if gay people not marrying other gay people will simply go "oh, well I'll just be straight then, and marry". Sorry, that doesn't exist. Gay people are gay whether you like it or not.
Allowing them to marry doesn't stop men and women marrying together, and it certainly doesn't stop them divorcing at a great rate like they do right now, more than one divorce for every two marriages in the US suggests they aren't doing a very good job of giving incentives for people to provide this secure home.
Surely they should be trying to give incentives for people to be knowledgeable when they go into relationships and want to have kids. Do they do this? Marriage isn't the incentive it used to be, people can get easy divorces.
"especially with their defended reverence for a man who raped, habitually, teen orphaned boys on drugs."
This is a statement that doesn't make sense to me. As if all gay people support this guy. Do you think gay people just want to rape everyone? Come off it. Let's stick to the reality here.
Some gay people have adopted and abused children. Some straight people have adopted and abused children.
You want to stop gay people from adopting because some have abused, but you don't want to stop straight adults from doing so. Right!
Marriage is a reward for certain behaviours? Like what? Cheating on their wife? Beating their wife? What exactly?
You don't make loving couples through marriage. Seriously, you don't. Married couples who stay together for life and take care of their children don't do so because of marriage. They do so because this is what they want from life.
With the rate of divorce so high, many don't do this with marriage, and wouldn't do so without marriage.
You're looking in the wrong place if you want to help kids on this issue.
Especially with the right in the US making a massive hash of dealing with poverty.
Your case is that there is a backlog of orphans and as such we should relax the standards of which homes they fall into. Since your group venerates and holds as its messiah, a child sex predator; and your group refuses to denounce him but instead vigorously defends his behaviors, you are essentially saying "just loosen up and let the kiddies come into these homes".
And I say "no". It is better for a child to be raised supervised in a state home with oversight than turned loose into the dark recesses behind closed doors of people who are clearly demonstrative that they do not have children's best interests in mind.
So after all what gays are really after, according to you, in marriage is the access to adoptable children. I thought so. Their wishes, however, do not stand as grounds for Utah to be forced to dissolve her standard as to the best arrangement to call "married" [to entice with its perks] for people to gravitate towards. Your insistence is going to raise the issue of Harvey Milk. It may not be an issue now. But I suspect it will be if you keep pushing it. Which is fine. I'd like to hear gays defend their collective-reverence for Harvey Milk's actions towards orphaned teen boys in open court....and defend why they require children in California to venerate his sexuality as "the first openly gay politician" each May 22nd, in public schools, as a matter of law.

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