or is respect something that is a given?
Please be honest.
Let's see.
Everyone is entitled to some respect as members of a civil society.
For example, one doesn't let the door fly in another's face, or rush into an elevator before people can get out.
That sort of respect is due, but, was earned by our ancestors who defined basic decency.
On a personal basis, respect has to be earned.
I owe no respect to say, a bunch of white trash punks in a parking lot, all draped in garb that desecrates Confederate flags, methed out, drunk and listening Eminem.
Faced with that, I put on my "You better respect the **** out of me aura".
So yes, respect has to be earned, nobody is entitled to it, even if it has to be a matter of respecting superior firepower or recognizing some people really do not give a **** if another person thinks he is entitled to respect.