you tried it by someone who didn't know how to properly cook it. It has to be fried at a certain temperature and it has to be really hot oil. I love fried okra but hate fried mushrooms..or any kind of mushroom. I do like stuffed fried jalapeños though.
Exactly. Some people think fried okra is just floured or left bare and sauteed in medium oil. It will be soggy, greasy, and unappealing and won't taste really good that way.
It first must be harvested at the tender stage, washed, dried, and cut into small bite size peices. It then is dropped in seasoned milk or cream and then must be thoroughly coated/breaded in about half flour, half yellow corn meal with the proper seasonings added. It is then dropped in hot oil so that each piece cooks separately and fries crisp, just shy of 'burnt', in two or three minutes; drained and it is yummy yummy--it is best when served immediately when it is still hot and very crisp.
When you cant find fresh... frozen okra doesn't make a bad substitute.
Yes, I have used frozen in a pinch and it is pretty good, but there is nothing quite like tender okra fresh picked from the garden.