these ridiculous societies
Indonesia (save the bit at the top) is a democracy with free and fair elections.
Equal rights for women are guaranteed in law, and one Indonesian national hero is Kartini, the woman who started the movement for women's education.
It is illegal to keep an Indonesian girl away from school until she's 16.
(In fact, that doesn't always work out because poverty excludes the chance, but it guarantees education for the majority of girls.)
Indonesia, unlike many non Muslim states, has had a female president - more than the US of A can claim at the moment.
Perhaps, and this is just a possibility, stereotypes use the actions and ideals of SOME Muslims, not ALL.